woah there calm down - you are now totally overreacting and getting in a total flap. You are panicking, no one is saying anything about ruining your life - it takes more than that.
You need to take some steps to stop this. Go do something. Make a cup of tea, I don't care of you actually drink it. Step into the garden if you have one and pull up some weeds. Pay attention to what you do - run your hand under the tap when you feel the kettle, feel the water, see the steam from the kettle, listen to the spoon tinkle against the mug. And keep breathing, out twice as long as in.
the time of my life that I waste getting upset and scared when I should be doing other things - important things I feel like nothing - what a waste - to be reduced to wasting my life away over this stupid fear
Are you on your own? I am pretty emetophobic (brings back horrid memories of my mum being ill when I was small) and DH is very understanding, and deals with much of it.
For me, it isn't so much the actual vomiting as the waiting for the next bout, iyswim? I feel hugely anxious, can't settle, heart racing. I also worry about getting sick myself and not being able to cope with the children, so i feel for you.
First thing- most bugs last 12-36 hours. There is a time limit.
Take lots of hygeine precautions, as much to reassure yourself as to try to prevent cross-infection- hand gels etc.
Try to distract yourself from the anxiety. Your child might go to sleep and not vomit again. Do a puzzle, read a book, watch a TV show.
And don't give yourself a hard time for feeling like this. Lots of people do, as I've come to realise. here's hoping your dc will be fine in the morning.
P.,S Chicken pox doesn't usually involve vomit, and I found it relatively easy to deal with. You will be fine. Even if you are a wreck, I bet you will deal with it for the sake of your children. Hope they have a speedy recovery.