Hi,
After months of wanting this baby, I had my son five days ago. However, I'm really struggling to cope. I have a history of mental health problems and am getting extra home visits, but I'm beginning to feel like this was some terrible mistake. This makes me feel awful and that I don't deserve to be a mother.
I'm trying to be strong for my husband, because he's finding it really hard too. I already take citalopram and than mirtazapine for sleeping.
I'm having real problems feeding him enough from the breast and expressing god knows how many times per day to top him up via bottle is exhausting me. Last night was terrible, sleep wise. He just wouldn't settle, except sitting on me, which meant I couldn't sleep. As soon as we put him in his moses basket he just started up again. Husband drove out to the 24hr Tesco at midnight to buy a dummy to see if that would pacify him. It does, until it falls out. I hate that we've resorted to a dummy after such a short time, and again, feel like I've failed as a mother.
I'm considering using formula, but yep, I feel like a failure. I have the resources to feed him naturally, but I just can't cope with the whole process taking 1 1/2 hours and then having to start again around 30 minutes later. I wish there was some medical reason I couldn't bf, then I wouldn't feel so bad.
I feel awful about the racket he's causing for the neighbours.
I can't help but feel that I don't deserve him. I do love him, but sometimes I wish things were different and that makes me feel so sad.
I was referred to the local mental health team during pregnancy and have an appt next week, but that's just one more thing stressing me out at the moment. I just want to rest.
Sorry, this is really just me getting things off my chest. It's so much easier to do anonymously.
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Mental health
New baby, can't cope
CaringForPod · 06/05/2011 20:12
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