Since I turned 18 (33 now) I have lived outside my means, constantly running up debts which I couldn't afford to pay but I've always been very lucky and something has come along to sort it out - inheritance, did very well out of a house sale, work bonus etc. Of course everytime the debts got cleared I promised myself that it would never happen again. I seem to be able to constantly play a game of self deception, telling myself that I can afford something or I'll pay it off my credit card the next month when deep down I know that I can't.
I also feel that I repeat this kind of behaviour in other parts of my life. I 'winged' it through school and university, doing little study but managing to get good grades. As a mother I feel a lot of the time that I'm doing the bare minimum to get by. In the past I've worked very hard in my job (which I really enjoy) but I've also had periods at work when I feel really unmotivated and become totally unproductive, let the work pile up and then have to work really, really long hours in a panic to catch up.
My life is good, I have a husband and two DD's that I adore and the job which I've always wanted but I feel like I've used up all my chances. I've started putting impulse purchases on a credit card which is meant to be for emergencies, I'm completely behind in my job and I think that I've made a huge financial mistake at work which could get me in a huge amount of trouble and probably sacked if it gets noticed (I have of course thought about owning up but I really don't think it would stop any action being taken, it was a genuine mistake but I have been negligent in not realising).
Up until the start of this week I was fine and then for some reason (probably because I was away for work for a few days with time to think), I have started to feel really panicky and scared. I feel as if all of my life I've been getting away with things and that it's all about to catch up with me and that my world is going to come crashing down around me. I keep on thinking that I must have some kind of self-destructive impulse or is it just that I'm a bad selfish person or maybe just stupid.
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Is this depression or am I just a selfish idiot?
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Unhappyharriet · 03/03/2011 21:29
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