Anxiety Club

[YommyMommy]

Just thought i'd check to see if anyone was still around????

Pop in and say hi :o

[smk84]

Yes ! Am just coming to terms with the fact that anxiety is part of me, and that regardless of interventions I am wasting my time hoping for an anxiety free personality ( I know anxiety free is not poss, but would like to get rid of the anxiety that haunts me a bit every day).
Also, would like to know if anyone who suffers from anxiety has successfully breastfed a baby?
Really struggled with my DS, and thinking of TTC, but it would probably break my heart if I couldn't manage it again. Wow, a load off just to write it down. Thanks in advance !

[YommyMommy]

Hi smk84,

Have you always been an anxious person??? Accepting anxiety and living with it is a great step in the right direction :) much easier to live along side it than fighting it all the time. I was never an anxious person until after the birth of my DS 1. I went on to have another DS and breastfed him no problem (I have never taken meds for anxiety to there was no issue there). I had no problems Bfeding him until he decided he wasn;t playing ball anymore :(

If you need to chat i'll be hanging around. Chin up, things do get better x x x

[smk84]

Thank you, that's great to know :)
Yes I think I have always been anxious, especially at stressful times, and more so as an adult. DS is (and always has been) a delightful boy - no trouble at all. I look back often thinking I wish I could have relaxed and enjoyed him a little bit more. (I know looking back is not a good idea too but brain is drawn there sometimes !!)
How do you find it having 2 children? x

[YommyMommy]

My first born, like yours, was and still is a delightful little boy. Never any trouble, so laid back. I too wish I could have enjoyed him more as a baby, but like you said no point dwelling on what if. I love him more than life itself and we have a great relationship so i'm happy and so is he. My DS too is a little devil!! :) He reminds me of that nursery rhyme - 'when she was good, she was very very good, but when she was bad she was terrible' lol! I love him even so! They are both my world.

Having two can be tough, but I wouldn;t change that for the world. They are 4(5 on monday) and 2 now and they starting to do a lot more together and thats brilliant to see. Its also nice that they have each other.

I was in a pretty bad place when I fell pregnant with DS2 and I really wasnt sure if I could handle another. I even talked about getting rid of him :( So sad to think about that now. As my pregnancy went on I found I was becoming less anxious and I think it was because I had something else to focus my mind on.

Hope all this helps. Hope you have had a good day :)

[reallytired]

"Also, would like to know if anyone who suffers from anxiety has successfully breastfed a baby?"

Yes, I had. Although being overly anxious about weaning really pushed me over the edge with my first child.

With your second child it is easier. It has helped me having a very gifted health visitor. I also think that knowledge is power.

[smk84]

Yommymummy - thank you for sharing your story. It's so nice that your children have each other. It definitely helps to hear what you have to say. Sometimes it's hard talking to other people who don't understand anxiety (even though I have great support). Not sure I understand it myself mind you !!
Really tired - thank you. I was also very very anxious about weaning DS. As usual it worked out fine in the end! I agree about knowledge - I have been lurking around the breastfeeding thread searching for tips. I didn't know about mumsnet when DS was small. If only ....