I feel so defeated

[BumptiousandBustly]

I feel so defeated.

I have PND, and have actually been depressed since I was pregnant. DS2 is no 11 months old and I just don't seem to be getting any better.

My PMT is out of this world and seems to continue for about two weeks of every month and just not be touched by the anti depressants!!!

I know they are working a bit the rest of the time as when they changed the brand, I just felt completely dreadful the whole month until they kicked in, but they just don't seem to touch the PMT at all.

I am not even sure why I am posting this, it doesn't feel like anything I do makes any difference or helps at all!

I have been fighting and fighting for help for so long, and am finally getting a bit of help (home start, post natal depression support group), and yes the practical things are helping - in practical ways, but I just feel so shit!

[whomovedmychocolate]

I'm sorry you are feeling so awful. I don't have a lot of experience so can't offer a lot of practical help but I didn't want your post to go unanswered.

In terms of your PMT it may be that this needs tackling separately though, there are lots of medical treatments which can help this -have you considered taking contraceptives that stop your periods so you don't have a cycle as such?

Hopefully someone more knowledgeable will mosey over in a minute but please consider going back to your GP and asking for help, it's not normal to feel like this and you can get better with help :)

[shodatin]

When I had PMT I found vitamin Bs helped (no side-effects, just a bit calmer) also got evening primrose capsules on prescription.
I'm sure the surgery is the place to start.
Hope you feel better soon.

[nemofish]

Yes I would second the vitamins thing. And iron supplements if you think you might need them. Well done for getting through this far, I'm sure you're on the home straight now!

PMS - had this very severely as a teenager. Suggestions: diet, look at having somplex carbs instead of refined carbs (so potatoes instead of bread or pasta) lots of green leafy veg (the only ones I can ever think of are lettuce and broccoli!) again a multi-vitamin and a multi-mineral, evening primrose oil caps, starflower oil caps and something you might like to try which is the only thing that worked for me: hemp seed oil. Got it from hippy health food shops, poured it into a glass of water and drank it (only need to take a tiny amount) but it really did help.

Hope you find something that works for you. These days I find that the 'chips and chocolate' method is sufficient for me. (phew!)