Hi there, having a bit of a bad time at the moment and finding the responsibility of making decisions for a whole family too much. To summarise - we moved to a new area when ds was 8 months old (he is now 3) - had a run of problems with rented properties (damp, asbestos, horrendous neighbours) which have left me feeling that nowhere is safe.
Now (for various reasons) we are about to move again but I'm completely unable to make a decision about where we should go. Basic options are stay in same area or move somewhere closer to my mum and a bit cheaper to live. Pros of staying are we know people and we are by the sea (which I really value and think would be great for ds and dd growing up). Cons are we're not near relatives or long-term friends and it's quite expensive. DH and I both self employed so no real work ties.
I really want this move to be permanent as we have to apply for ds's school in January and I don't want to keep moving him once he's settled. But it just feels like so much pressure to decide now where we're going to live for the next 18 years.... And after our run of bad experiences, I just keep fearing the worst - what if we don't like it, what if there's something wrong with the house, what if something terrible happens, everyone is miserable and it's all my fault....
This all follows several episodes of depression and anxiety. Not quite sure how to get a grip and make a responsible decision that is best for all of us and that I'm not going to live to regret.
Any thoughts/advice etc etc most welcome.
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Can somebody give me some perspective?
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assett · 14/11/2010 20:09
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