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Constantly thinking of death - is this normal?

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TicklesnToes Thu 04-Nov-10 20:50:50

Hi There, have debated posting this thread but getting more and more anxious by the day and need to spill some where...

I go through this every now and again but this time is much worse and lasting longer. I am constantly worrying about death and family members dying and don't know how to stop it. i know its inevitable but its playing on my thoughts all of the time now making me very anxious and low. DOn't feel like i can talk to anybody about this as lets face it its not a subject people like to talk about.

I have a wee boy who's 5 months old and not sure if thats whats prompted all of this. Has anyone else gone through similar and if so how did you stop it/feel better about it?

arfasleep Fri 05-Nov-10 11:09:20

Think its prob anxiety related and may be due to having your DS. Have you had any bereavement/serious illness in family recently, because that can cause this. Do you have a good health visitor? Because you could maybe talk it through with them, you could bring it up as being anxious/anxiety related. If you think you're depressed and talking about it doesn't help you need to try and see your GP, to get help or medication.

I had this after my dad was v ill & died a couple of years ago, kept thinking about possibility of accidents & started to become scared about going out with DS near roads etc. Talked it through with health visitor (very lucky, she is fab) and was reassured that its quite normal grief reaction & would settle down. Its not as uncommon as you (probably) think & doesn't mean you are crazy or weird.

Tobermory Fri 05-Nov-10 11:21:15

Tickles, didn't want tonread and run but only got time for a quick post.
I can relate to a lot of what you wrote in your post. I have lost both parents, and as a result go through periods of thinking about death. There are times when it feels close , I don't mean as if someone will die ant minute, more that that I'm v aware that it can happen to anyone. It's hit me twice and I know life is fragile. my lovely Dad passed away a week before li found out I was pg with DD1 and as a result my grieving process very much overlapped the positive feelings of pregnancy. But 4 years and two DD's down the road I feel more 'healed'. When I'm feeling dark I try to talk about it, DH or friends but also give myself a talking to and a good shake. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it?
How are you feeling today?

JustDoMyLippyThenWeWillGo Fri 05-Nov-10 11:23:29

I think this is really common when you have a child/children. Along with becoming tearful at the news. Least, that's me. I would say speak to someone if it's really affecting your day to day life tho.

TicklesnToes Fri 05-Nov-10 15:56:09

Hi All, thanks for your replies. I did have a bereavement at the beginning of the year but it was expected so was not a shock to me although still very sad. And my new responsibility as a mum probably doesn't help either.

so sorry for all your losses, my worries may have been prompted by my dad telling me he is worried he is going to die young as his father and uncles all have.

I find myself thinking about it more when i'm on my own and at night which i'm sure is common. If thi continues to go on i will take your advice and speak to someone about it, may help to get it off my chest. Just hearing you all say you have similar thoughts and worries helps, thank you.

Scruffyhound Wed 10-Nov-10 11:52:59

I can remember feeling like this when I had my DS. I kept thinking what would happen to my DS if I died right now? What if I fell down the stairs and DS was on his own all day until someone found us!?
My dad was schizophrenic and not on his meds either and kept thinking he was going to jump off a bridge! This went on for about 4 months and longer and then feeling very low and crying all the time its turned out I had post natal depression. I knew something was wrong but kept trying to push it to the back of my mind. In the end it got too much and I ended up crying all day and a mess I decided to ring up my health visitor for help she was great. But I needed to go for some help It did pass it took a while but got better. I hope you feel better soon. grin

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