I see that this topic is mostly female contraception but I have a "man" question so I hope it is OK to post here. I should say I'm a guy. After 20+ years of non-condom use DW has come off the Mirena and can't have another (we are in our 50s) - we have good regular sex but I can't get back into condoms. When I was younger I used them and honestly could not tell the difference of with or without - and I thought guys who said that they could feel them were really selfish whingers. My previous preferred brand was Durex Fetherlite but they don't make those anymore. My problem is that I sometimes simply can't cum when we use them - I stay hard OK but I just can't stimulate myself to the point of ejaculation. To me, the Durex and Skyn brands I have tried seem tight at the top (my recollection is that Durex condoms used to be baggy at the closed end - anyone agree?). I can still cum as easily as before through masturbation or petting with DW and I seem to produce as much sperm - so I don't think I have changed. DW has no problems and she gets aroused and wet as before - so no changes in the mechanics of sex with her.
Has anyone else had similar issues and what are the best brands for sensitivity (there are so many and can't buy them to try them all).
You could try the non latex ones. Look matey (I'm a bloke) if you are expected to take responsibility now get back into using condoms pronto. Your other option is the snip, and as a fella who was perfectly happy with condoms prior to the snip, I've had a dodgy snip and suffer terrible constant pain and have lost testosterone production so have to have big injections every two weeks. Oh and my pain meds stopped me ejaculating, we tried.
Use some more lube.
Given an option, get used to it. The snip can ruin your life. It's very nearly finished our relationship. We are fighting through it.
Read my thread about vasectomy then decide about condoms. My wife needed to stop hormonal contraception but she didn't like condoms, so surgery was it for me.
Try different makes or the sensation ones. Really. I can't recommend the snip.
Bloody hell I too would have thought falling pregnant in your 50s is incredibly unlikely too. I am pregnant at 40 and the effort it took to fall and find and egg that wasn't damaged was extensive. Lots of miscarriages, not at a easy. To fall pregnant at 50 therefore without a donor egg must be a likelihood of less that 0.0001%
Obviously there may be particular circumstances in your wife's case, OP, but generally women can have a Mirens coil right up to menopause and beyond. Just in case she's heard otherwise and might want to get a second opinion. Failing that, would you at least consider vasectomy? I know a PP here has had a bad experience, but for the vast majority of people it's a straightforward, uncomplicated procedure and very effective.
At the age of 50, I honestly think you should just deal with using condoms. It's unlikely to be more than a couple of years until menopause now, you can just change your sex life to contain more petting.
I agree with those who suggest vasectomy, as I really don't think the whole burden of contraception should fall onto the woman, but I just don't feel that a few years of sex without condoms are worth it.
If you were my partner, I'd be buying different types of condom to try, getting you to read 'taking charge of your fertility' and not encouraging you to get the snip. The problem with the snip is thAt while its unlikely you'll be the unlucky one, the potential damage it causes if it goes wrong is not worth taking.