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Looking for advice on contraceptive my husband won't find out about

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claire96 Thu 13-Oct-11 17:02:49

I've been looking into my options but am rather confused. I need a contraceptive my husband won't find out about. My doctor recommended the Nexplanon. Implants but a friend has an implant and you can feel it under her skin. Any advice appreciated.

JarethTheGoblinKing Thu 13-Oct-11 17:04:04


But.. why do you need to keep contraception a secret from your husband?

eaglewings Thu 13-Oct-11 17:05:27

I am sorry I can't answer your question fully, but does a coil show in anyway?

More importantly, why can you not be honest with him, do you need to talk thi through confidentially? Your local family planning clinic or GP should help

DeepPurple Thu 13-Oct-11 17:07:58

The injection?

GHAHSTLYGHOULYpants Thu 13-Oct-11 17:08:47

IUD, or "the coil" as it is called. It is completely unseen. It does affect your cycle though, so that may be a concern.

I am more worried that this is something you are doing without the support of your DH. Is there something wrong?

Your GP should be able to talk through the various options with you.

My GP will not administer the implant, he is not comfortable with it and says there needs to be more research done on it. Just saying.

claire96 Fri 14-Oct-11 18:20:11

Isn't there a thread with the coil?

JarethTheGoblinKing Fri 14-Oct-11 18:21:18

Well, yes.

Why do you need to hide it? confused

AnyoneButLulu Fri 14-Oct-11 18:28:54

If your husband would not accept your judgement on whether you want children then I suggest divorce as your most suitable contraception. Consider this an official "Leave the bastard".

rubyrubyruby Fri 14-Oct-11 18:31:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MurderBloodstabsandgore Fri 14-Oct-11 18:33:55

injection, but it will stop your periods. Otherwise, the normal pill.

come on though, we need backstory.

mrspear Fri 14-Oct-11 18:34:40

coil and implant yes there is a chance of him noticing dito the cap and as for the pill he can find the packet. How about the injection - just avoid showing your bum for a couple of days after!

I will ask nor judge about why - just think you may get questions why you are not pregnant in a year or so!

Reality Fri 14-Oct-11 18:34:42

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SardineQueen Fri 14-Oct-11 18:34:56

Mirena has a little thread hanging out the cervix.

Don't know about copper coil.

MurderBloodstabsandgore Fri 14-Oct-11 18:35:38

anyonebutlulu hear hear

lubeybooby Fri 14-Oct-11 18:35:46

Injection would be easiest to cover up... but why does it need to be a secret? Are you ok?

mrspear Fri 14-Oct-11 18:35:51

Yes but periods you can say you have when you haven't - unless OP's DH is going to check confused

saffron Fri 14-Oct-11 18:36:36

Depo provera injection every 11 weeks is your best bet. No one but you and your GP or F/P clinic you are unlikely to have periods tho

saffron Fri 14-Oct-11 18:37:50

no one but your GP of F/P clinic will know

Northernlurker Fri 14-Oct-11 18:38:27

I agree that contraception you need to hide = a relationship you need to get out of

jenniec79 Fri 14-Oct-11 18:47:50

Injection probably the least obvious, but I agree with Northernlurker

claire96 Fri 14-Oct-11 18:59:37

Missed periods would probably get noticed so injections are probably not a good idea.

It's not what some of you seem to be thinking. DH had the snip a while back.

ChippingIn Fri 14-Oct-11 19:02:46

Oh so you want to cheat on your husband and not get caught by him finding contraception where none should be needed.

Why not just leave him - let him get on with his life with someone who loves & respects him?

I hope the very very least you are doing is having safe sex.

lubeybooby Fri 14-Oct-11 19:11:13

In that case use condoms with the other man to protect both you and your husband from STI's <presuming but can't see what else it could be>

Or as chippingin said, do the right thing and end one relationship before 'exploring' another.

Northernlurker Fri 14-Oct-11 21:15:24

Ok well asking for contraceptive advice so you can cheat on your husband is really, really poor. I restate my advice - you need to get out of this relationship.

GrumpyInRepose Fri 14-Oct-11 21:21:15

You want to cheat on your husband?

Round of applause for you hmm if you haven't enough respect for him to let him find someone who cares for him, at least stop short of putting his life in danger. Use condoms with your new chap.

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