Need help finding a grave/burial

Is there anything on those cemetery websites?

If the cemetery is part of a church you can ask for them to check the parish records.
If the cemetery belongs to the council, you can often ask them to search the burial records. Information on how to do so should be on the local council website.

You can also search on findagrave of you haven't done so already.

are you sure there was a grave, and not a cremation?

For the church there should be the contact details for a church warden. Or try contacting the church through Facebook?

Most church yards would have closed already. I think the latest graves in my church yard is well before 1950. A burial would have been in a council cemetery after that.

Ashes may have been committed in a church yard up to the present time.

Apparently 15% of funerals led to cremations in the 1950s. The ashes may have been scattered rather than interred.

If it's likely that the burial would be in a council cemetery, contact the council and they should point you in the right direction. They will know which cemetery it is likely to be, and have the records. If a cremation, which you are correct in saying, was not so common in the '50's, the local crematorium would have records.

I have a friend whose baby brother died at 3 yrs old in the 50s, ten years before he was born. They were a very poor family. He found the records recently - the boy was buried in someone else’s grave in a London cemetery - they were able to show him whose grave it was so he could pay his respects. Apparently that was quite common if the family couldn’t afford their own grave/headstone.

I don’t know if that’s helpful at all.

There will definitely be a record of the funeral in church, if you can pin-point the church.

Ashes aren’t scattered in a church yard. They are buried/committed in a small capsule. There will have been a committal service, so should be recorded somewhere.

Hi OP,

I’m a member of quite a few FH sites (hobby / obsession! 😂) happy to have a search around if you want to pm me details....

Most councils have someone responsible for burials and graveyards - often under bereavement services - mainly for ongoing burials, but they will often also deal with inquiries for historic burials and possibly cremations if the crem is publicly owned (as most are). If his ashes were scattered it is unlikely there would be a gravestone.

The relevant local archive may also help.

Have you looked at local papers of the time which would carry reports of deaths and funerals? Many are on line or at local libraries.

If you know where he died, the funeral would almost certainly have been close by but the death certificate won't help. It will only record place of death and who reported the death.

Good luck.

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