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Should I let ds1 give up Tae Kwon Do?

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KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:17:04

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FranSanDisco Mon 01-Sep-08 16:20:24

Having similar dilemma with dd (7 yo) over dance and drama. I have told her if she changes her mind there is a long wait list to rejoin. She wants to do horse riding instead hmm DO you know how much that costs? shock. I have basically asked dd to go back to the first lesson on saturday and then make her decision. However no promise of riding is being made.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:23:01

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TheArmadillo Mon 01-Sep-08 16:23:44

what about telling him if he goes for the next term/half term and then still wants to give it up then he can, but he needs to go back first and see.

It's often hard to go back after long holiday.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:33:56

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Hulababy Mon 01-Sep-08 16:37:14

If he is adament I wouldn't make him. Extra currciular activities IMO should be fun and of the child's choice. Once they don't want to do it any more they shouldn't have to, once the paid amount has been completed.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:38:21

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IllegallyBrunette Mon 01-Sep-08 16:39:27

I had this with Dd1 and ballet.

She started when she was 3 and decided she didn't want to do it anymore when she was 9.

I was dissapointede that she gave it up, but I didn't want to be spending all that money on making her do something she didn't want to.

IllegallyBrunette Mon 01-Sep-08 16:40:04

I had this with Dd1 and ballet.

She started when she was 3 and decided she didn't want to do it anymore when she was 9.

I was dissapointede that she gave it up, but I didn't want to be spending all that money on making her do something she didn't want to.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:41:38

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KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 16:41:58

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KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 17:06:30

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QuintessentialShadow Mon 01-Sep-08 17:14:25

Could you maybe suggest he does another "cool" sport like football?

I did Karate for several years when I was younger. 5 years later I got into "a spot of bother" with a bloke and he found himself layin on his back on the floor in no time. Yes martial arts is good to defend yourself, but I agree he does not lose the ability just because he stops practicing. Ensure he stays fit and healthy.

I would not push him if he does not want to. He will just be miserable.

Maybe he and DS2 could take up football together? Or is the age gap too big? In any event, the same football club may run classes for their agegroups at the same time. ANd you kill two flies in one stone.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 17:17:14

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scaredoflove Mon 01-Sep-08 17:18:08

If his heart isn't in it, will he really learn more from it??

Going in to secondary, there will always be bigger kids and tbh if he used a martial art on them for any reason, he would be the one in trouble, BIG trouble. Best advice would be to teach him to run! I think you'll find that most schools are vigilant where severe allergies are concerned. I have never heard of any thing like having peanuts for a laugh. And you son needs again to learn to walk away from any kind of trouble. If it did happen it would be a serious criminal assault, I don't think you would need to worry about that one

I'd let him give it up, if he wants to resume later, he will learn it isn't so easy to drop stuff and pick it up again later, a good lesson to learn

QuintessentialShadow Mon 01-Sep-08 17:18:26

He forgot swimming?

Umm, then I cant guarantee he wont forget tae kwon do..... sorry...

What, did he just sink?

unknownrebelbang Mon 01-Sep-08 17:19:58

If you're going to be missing two weeks anyway, give it a miss until next month.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 17:23:07

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KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 17:23:34

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QuintessentialShadow Mon 01-Sep-08 17:26:15

Dont make him. Maybe he is tired? Maybe he wants to just chill at home? He has a hectic schedule already, doesnt he?

Spend the time well. Dinner, homework, family movie time, that sort of thing.

KerryMum Mon 01-Sep-08 17:41:10

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milou2 Mon 01-Sep-08 17:57:53

I'd just apologise for not listening to him and say ok I get the message now, it's your life and it's important to feel able to make choices and be listened to.

VoluptuaGoodshag Mon 01-Sep-08 18:05:28

How about saying to him well how cool would it be to get a black belt. Even the very phrase 'black belt' sounds impressive, no matter what martial art it is. If you give up now it'll be harder to get back to it and it's harder to get a black belt when you are older.

If he's at a green belt then that's only 6 more gradings (if I remember correctly). What age is he? Does he take part in tournaments? How can it NOT be cool to win something at a tournament.

I used to do TKD and want my kids to do it when they are older. DH doesn't like the idea but as he is 6'6" and never been bullied in his life I don't think he really gets my meaning. I would just feel better knowing they could disarm someone with a knife and get away.

vess Mon 15-Sep-08 14:43:03

Well I'm a taekwondo instructor (not doing that at the moment though) and I'd say if he doesn't want to go, don't make him. There's not much point in just turning up to training if you are not motivated and not enjoying it at all.

GrimmaTheNome Mon 15-Sep-08 14:48:58

If you said he could quit after getting his green belt, then really you have to let him quit if he wants to.

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