Apols for long and waffly post. If you can wade through it, advice gratefully received...
DD2 does a whole pile of activities: she's 6 and we're kind of at that stage of trying a lot of different things to see what she likes to do.
One of them is swimming, but imo this one's non-negotiable. They will have lessons at school, starting from next year, but most of her friends can swim already. I've talked to mums with kids higher up the school and because they all start off being reasonably competent school lessons are more a case of bringing them on rather than teaching the basics: DD2 isn't quite what I call "swimming" yet, and if she stops now she'll be further behind. Plus at Easter we bought a boat (a teeny tiny one, but still a boat...) and one of the conditions of buying it in the first place was that DD2 would learn to swim so that she's confident in the water and doesn't panic if she falls in. She'll have a life jacket of course, but still will be safer if she's a swimmer. DD2 agreed that this was a deal, so the boat was bought.
The thing is, unlike other activities she does, swimming is boring. There are no games, she just plods up and down doing exercises. The teacher is competent though not charismatic - but there isn't a lot of choice locally so this is as good as it's going to get. I need to remind DD2 from time to time about why she is doing it and how important it is, and even so her heart isn't in it like it is with eg gymnastics or riding. But to be fair to her, she plods on, and because she's actually pretty good at it when she tries, as long as she pays attention and goes through the motions then she makes progress. If she actually tried properly I think she could be properly good. But that's her choice.
She has got to the point where she can swim a length of the pool on her back, but hasn't quite mastered the breathing for front crawl so can't get far on her front. But considering where she started from (quite nervous around water to start with) and that she's not bothered whether she goes or not, I thought she was doing pretty well.
Today it all went pear-shaped. The little boy she shares the lesson with did really well to start with (which I think annoyed her because they are usually pretty much the same level) and then managed to bang his knee on the side and came out crying and got lots of fuss and attention and DD2 didn't. After that her attitude went completely to pot and she basically ignored the teacher and started doing random stuff and not what she was supposed to be doing at all. Then she pretended she couldn't hear, and eventually when it finally sank in that she was in trouble, she fiddled with her goggles, put them back on wrongly and then got into hysterics in the middle of the pool because she couldn't see and was scared and had to be removed from the pool and taken home early. Major meltdown and a tantrum in the car.
I'm quite strict, so I went with my instinct and laid down the law: it's a massive hassle getting her to swimming (including taking her severely disabled sister out of school half an hour early and then carrying her to the poolside, which is doing my back in) and DD2 is being a total primadonna about it. So I've told her that she has to do swimming and she has to behave in class and put in a reasonable amount of effort, or else I am going to start cutting the "fun" activities because she doesn't get to pick and choose. Various minor sanctions were applied.
However, it feels "wrong" to be hauling her over the coals for not enjoying an extracurricular activity. I guess in an ideal world I'd find a brilliant teacher who made every lesson fun and got her so interested that she'd try her best every time. But then again, on that basis she wouldn't have to do her homework if school failed to make homework "fun" every night. I could just write in the homework book: "homework too boring to contemplate tonight, please try harder." The truth is, there are things you just have to do.
Any advice/experience?
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r3dh3d · 28/05/2012 19:11
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