Unfit or exhausted? Can't work out my exercise levels(39 Posts)
So recently I've been thinking I'm tired because I'm out of shape and need to go to the gym, but at the GP they said I was "very active" because I walk at least an hour every day. I have some health problems which can be associated with being unfit, so was thinking that I should exercise MORE but the GP has made me question whether that would just be putting a burden on my body if I'm already very active and could exacerbate my health problems. I would love to go back to the gym again and/ or workout at home, but the GP has made me think that maybe what I'm doing already is more than adequate so these health problems probably have less to do with activity and more to do with diet quality/stress/other causes. I think either way I'll try and find a yoga or Pilates class once a week because I've always enjoyed that, but am I crazy to think that the gym would be beneficial? Or will I just get more exhausted? Is walking 7-14 hours a week really so abnormal? Isn't that what everybody does if they don't have a car or use of a car for school runs etc.?
You poor thing. I think you need to clarify with the/a GP exactly what was meant. Make clear you really want to get back to more vigorous exercise. Lugging kids around and walking isn't the same if you like eg HIT classes, and I completely understand about wanting that bit of your life back. I'd ask exactly what the risks are if any, for specific classes or exercises, and tell them what you used to do and like.
@MsMartini I think maybe I need to just take it slowly and listen to/trust myself a bit more. Not run before I can walk ('scuse the pun) but get back into good habits. I don't want to leave it so long that I'm stuck in the habit of not exercising. I don't know how to say it to anybody, but it's like I'm a totally different person without exercise. It is my antidepressant, my stress release, my emotional regulation, my meditation, my therapy, my head space, I transcend the daily grind for the length of a yoga class, I feel weightless swimming lengths, and on top of the world on runners high, and when you're dancing and smiling with other people it's like you're part of something bigger then yourself, joyful and unifying and fun. Life is so serious so often, and doing "kid" stuff like jumping on a trampoline or an wheel barrow race can break up the monotony. Sorry, that probably sounds OTT. There are lots of things I thought I'd have to give up as a parent (and did so happily) but exercise was not one of them.
You write beautifully, OP, and I get you . I feel like that too about exercise - and I came to it late.
Why should you stop - it clearly does you the world of good. I think there can be a bit of sexism about women and exercise - I remember an NHS campaign when my dc were little about housework counting towards active minutes. Sod that. they wouldn't say that to men. A woman at my gym was back in high-intensity classes when her baby was a month old. If there is something specific you need to be careful about, your GP needs to spell it out because you could do it accidentally in everyday life anyway. Saying vaguely don't overdo things is meaningless. And then you can tell your instructors and they can make adaptations. Start slowly and build up and see if you feel fitter and happier and sleep better.
I often think humans are capable of much more exercise than we think, one hour a day is actually only 4% of the day
I’m over 50 and strive to achieve 8% each day and some Sundays aim for 16% -20% summer time and I’m getting 12% in each day and loving it!
I have colleagues half my age that think more than an hour a day will make them unwell and could end up being stressed by to much exercise at three x per week
But you said you’d been ill and under doctor so I’m being sensible and advising you ask
The obstetrician said "you should be fine to exercise as normal afterwards, but check with the GP at your post natal check." So I did and got told not to worry about it, basically. But obviously I'm not under the obstetrician anymore and I can't get a referral for pregnancy issues now that I'm no longer pregnant, so been sent back to the GP.
If cleaning counts (and doing the picking up) then I never stop!
I would really encourage you to get this sorted, for your mind and physical health as it’s important to you - let us know 😊
But if the obstetrician said that (the GP caveat sounds like standard pre-birth advice to me), then the GP comment sounds more like he was reassuring you that you were active - not that he was saying there was a medical problem with exercising properly. Honestly, I'd go back ASAP, say what you said below about how exercise makes you feel (which should make your GP's heart sing) and ask if there are specific things you can't do.
Thanks. I think I probably asked if I would be ok to the gym but wasn't specific about what I meant so the GP might have had an image of me in spin class or the weight bench, not doing a Pilates class or whatever, so it is probably my fault for how I worded it. I can't remember exact words now, but I do sometimes use "gym" as an umbrella term for everything From aqua aerobics to boxing to yoga to the elliptical and back again, and probably need to be Clearer. I will let you know how I get on. Thanks
Not your fault OP - the GP should have asked what you meant and also established how you felt about it. Both are important. Good luck!
I couldn't wait to get back to exercising (mostly HIIT) after my 6wk check. Similar to you - for my mental health (space and joy) as much as physical fitness. In fairness, my check consisted of the GP checking my baby thoroughly and cursorily asking if I felt ok - nary a word about my stitches or any mention of relaxin. I got more info on that from google and gym instructors (both male and female) who either had dealt with this before or in one case, went and researched what I was able to do safely in her class and how to build back up to former levels.
With the best will in the world, a GP isn't necessarily the best person to ask about exercise. If you can afford it, you may be better off getting a few sessions with a personal trainer who has experience with post-natal women, as they may be more knowledgeable about how relaxin can affect you and what you should avoid doing in order to prevent injury, and also what sort of exercises you can/need to do if e.g. your stomach muscles are separated or you need to rebuild core strength. It might also be safer than just launching yourself back into aerobics classes and accidentally pushing yourself too far because you're one of 30-odd and the instructor doesn't know any of your history and isn't watching you closely... whatever you do, build up slowly and don't push yourself into an injury! Your body has been through quite a lot and you need to allow time to recover. Good luck!
There's walking, walking and walking, and unfortunately some walking while being active can just be draining rather than being fit.
I had inactive pregnancies due to SPD. By the time I'd gone through my tough births, my starting point was walking 100m down the road then back to bed to recover. That quickly built up to a couple of miles after a couple of months, but by then I'd got what I reasonably could out of walking. I gently built up with post-natal buggy classes and pilates DVDs. By about 5m, I was ready for mainstream classes again/ starting C25k. Second time the SPD stuck around and it was 5m before I realised I was now limping out of habit than pain and puffed up hills horribly because I'd been going so slowly for so long even though I did a good quantity of walking. C25K quickly improved my cardio health and stopped the puffing. Bursts of more energetic movement can be more energising than prolonged plodding.
The difficulty is that being post-natal, you are likely to be sleep deprived, not eating your best, depleted in nutrients too. Quick healthy foods rather than the easy option, supplements and taking opportunities to rest may also help. Defficiencies requiring more specialised support can often be necessary for new mums. Did you get out over the summer months to build up vit D for example?
I think exercise should be at a level where you’re out of breath, at least for a significant portion of it. Weight lifting possibly being an exception.
Exercise can boost your energy levels though you may feel more knackered initially.
Have you had stuff like iron levels, vit d and thyroid checked?
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