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When you were a kid, did you spend a lot of time sticking your finger into cowpats? It always smelt the same, didn't it? I hope you washed your hands.
"Hard Brexit" and "soft brexit" are pretty meaningless terms, but there is a spectrum of what Brexit could mean, depending on what we choose to prioritise (and what the EU agree to).
The EU will never, ever give us all the benefits of membership, with none of the drawbacks. The people who implied that were liars.
But, unless we jump off the cliff without any agreement on anything (terrible, terrible idea), we will always be tied to the EU in some way.
So lying between the two extremes (full membership of the EU and "No deal"), is a range of different Brexits. Some that prioritise very Right wing values, some that are very good for billionaires who don't like paying tax, others that are better for business, some that prioritise workers rights, etc. Its not even necessarily true that some of these interpretations of Brexit are "harder" than others - that's just language developed by those with a vested interest in suggesting that their interpretation is the only "proper" Brexit, and that other interpretations are somehow "softer" (read; weak/not real/cop out).
I would like to see us remain a part of the ECHR, Euratom, intelligence sharing, etc, and would like to see us prioritise trade ahead of jingoism. I think it would be worth paying something to the EU in return for favourable trade agreements - especially with regard to services. It is also really important to me that we safeguard the rights of EU citizens who have settled here, and that more attention is payed to the Northern Island issue, which has been disgracefully under-prioritised so far.