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To not be able to speak to my near neighbours who voted leave?

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TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom Fri 24-Jun-16 23:43:03

My children's future has been put at stake. Our economy risks ruin. Our relatively -well-off neighbours in a place with nearly full employment and very low recent immigration (local care companies and NHS are desperate for staff) have voted leave. They are only around fifty.

I'm gobsmacked.

The irony is that the small business they are in is affected by the growth of China as an economic powerhouse. So why on earth do they feel that leaving the EU gives them more power? It gives them less.

I am so angry and feel so let down by my country. These people, and people like them ahem destroyed my hopes for a continued peace in Europe.

How on earth am I expected to talk to them on an equal footing, knowing what they have done through their own greed?

HunterHearstHelmsley Fri 24-Jun-16 23:44:14

I'm sure they won't be bothered.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Fri 24-Jun-16 23:45:36

Oh get a grip!!! Fgs hmm

Libitina Fri 24-Jun-16 23:45:44

Over dramatic much OP?


WorraLiberty Fri 24-Jun-16 23:46:27

Do what you want.

All this will calm down eventually, as will your emotions.

It'll be business as usual soon enough as we'll all just have to get over it.

PurpleRainDiamondsandPearls Fri 24-Jun-16 23:46:51

YABVVVVU and I am very firmly in the remain camp. I'm furious at the result but certainly no plans to disown any relatives or cease friendships.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Fri 24-Jun-16 23:47:02

So it was them..... They are the two!! The two votes which made the difference

Name and shame em

Or get over yourself and stop jumping on the bandwagon of 'grief'

NoMudNoLotus Fri 24-Jun-16 23:48:52

Good god .

Do you work? How the hell do you propose working alongside colleagues who voted out confused

AgentZigzag Fri 24-Jun-16 23:49:54

Of course you're being unreasonable hahaha grin

Just talk to them like you normally would, why on earth would you take it out on them?

MariaSklodowska Fri 24-Jun-16 23:50:11

this is why it is a bad idea to discuss politics or tell people how u are voting.
If you think that their political choices mean that they are not on an 'equal footing' to you then have a biscuit
just out of interest did you vote for New Labour in 1997?

wishfulthink Fri 24-Jun-16 23:50:43

Yes. Stop the devision already!!!

MajesticWhine Fri 24-Jun-16 23:51:48

YANBU. There are members of my family I don't really want to speak to right now. But hopefully we will feel better in a few days/weeks when we have got over the initial shock.

glassgarden Fri 24-Jun-16 23:52:06

get over yourself

Floralnomad Fri 24-Jun-16 23:53:05

Totally over dramatic response .

acasualobserver Fri 24-Jun-16 23:53:42

Like you OP, I voted remain and my neighbours voted leave. I'm sure they did what they did what they thought was the right thing - they probably think I'm the one who's got it wrong. Anyway, I liked them before and I still do.

Whiteplate1 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:54:36

Do you feel this angry about other things too?

Imstickingwiththisone Fri 24-Jun-16 23:54:39

Stop taking it personally OP. They voted believing that it was the best thing for the country, not because they wanted to see you and your family's downfall. You need to accept you won't always agree with people on politics.

Kummerspeck Fri 24-Jun-16 23:55:13

The Remain camp, you included, need to get a grip and start looking for the opportunities this new world will present instead of being drama llamas. If you are so silly as to not speak to people over this it will be no great loss to them.

Guiltypleasures001 Fri 24-Jun-16 23:57:37

And still the world keeps turning

OhTheRoses Fri 24-Jun-16 23:59:17

It's called a democracy. I wasn't keen in the people next door who pit up a labour poster in 1997 but it was their life, their choice and they were going to be my neighbours for a long time - 17'years actually. Nod and smile. Nod and smile xx

TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom Sat 25-Jun-16 00:01:11

I thought they were interesting, thoughtful, open minded people and now I see them as small minded xenophobes.

I'll say hello and smile - I wouldn't ignore them - but I have no desire to spend time with anyone who does the country so much harm.

wishfulthink Sat 25-Jun-16 00:02:32

This is what "they" wanted - friends, families, neighbours pitched against each other

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Sat 25-Jun-16 00:03:26

They are still who you initially thought them to be....still the same

It's you that's changed. Bitterness is ugly.

Duckyneedsaclean Sat 25-Jun-16 00:04:55

now I see them as small minded xenophobes.

Nothing like a bit of insulting generalisation to make yourself seem more reasonable.

pillowaddict Sat 25-Jun-16 00:05:27

Going against the grain here, I feel the same, awkward chat today with neighbours in their 60s who literally danced a jig after I'd been in tears earlier thinking about my dc's grandparent from a European country feeling ousted. They asked me, and told me, so no cloak n dagger or assumptions just them in their mortgage free house and me with my young dc in totally different places. They pissed me right off.

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