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If a child has been in hospital.....

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Akifden Sat 15-Mar-14 20:25:28

Would you expect a get well soon card or call from grandmother and auntie?

youbethemummylion Sat 15-Mar-14 20:28:12

I would not expect a card from anyone but ive always found get well soon cards odd. I would expect a phone call or a visit though.

StarlightMcKingsThree Sat 15-Mar-14 20:28:39

No. I have had 4 kiddie hospital stays and not got cards nor thought to.

MrsDeVere Sat 15-Mar-14 20:29:17

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SummerRain Sat 15-Mar-14 20:29:26

I wouldn't be pushed about a card but would definitely expect a call or a visit.

StarlightMcKingsThree Sat 15-Mar-14 20:29:41

But then, I like to make hospital visits as positive as possible and cards seem a bit too pitying tbh.

Sirzy Sat 15-Mar-14 20:30:50

I wouldn't expect a card, I would expect some sort of contact.

Akifden Sat 15-Mar-14 20:32:10

Ok so no contact at all is a bit odd?

Sirzy Sat 15-Mar-14 20:33:15

Unless they have spoken to another relative and passed on wishes that way then yes.

When DS is in hospital other than my sister all other family communication tends to go through my parents but they pass on wishes if that makes sense?

Akifden Sat 15-Mar-14 20:35:10

Would like to say i hadn't thought about until we got a card or call from everyone but these people which made it seem
uncaring but I'm not sure if I'm being over sensitive .

youbethemummylion Sat 15-Mar-14 20:36:04

How close are they usually though, do you communicate usually? When my DS was in hospital I had no contact from my Brother although he must have known but then we dont usually communicate anyway.

youbethemummylion Sat 15-Mar-14 20:37:08

Also depends how long/how serious the hospital stay I suppose.

MrsDeVere Sat 15-Mar-14 20:39:19

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Picturesinthefirelight Sat 15-Mar-14 20:39:51

I'd expect a call/text from a grandparent but not from an auntie.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Sat 15-Mar-14 20:42:20

I can't really answer without context. Get well soon cards are a bit weird IMO - OTT if it is nothing serious, but twee and potentially upsetting if there is the very real possibility of them not getting well.

If these are generally kind and loving relatives then it wouldn't cross my mind to be upset.

ChocolateSnowflakes Sat 15-Mar-14 20:42:41

Of course it depends on your relationships with them, but I would certainly expect a call.

Akifden Sun 16-Mar-14 08:13:50

They normally place a lot of importance on cards.

Akifden Sun 16-Mar-14 08:17:01

Thanks MrsDeVere I just feel odd about it.

PotteringAlong Sun 16-Mar-14 08:25:25

It depends - my nephew was in hospital and I rang my mum rather than my sister, because talking to me would be just another thing to do. I text her, so she knew I was thinking about her, but all verbal communication was done through mum and mum told the rest of us.

It never crossed my mind to send a card.

MrsDeVere Sun 16-Mar-14 08:44:23

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Akifden Sun 16-Mar-14 08:50:25

Thanks again. I think I wouldn't normally bother but when you're already feeling a bit stressed silly things play on your mind more don't they? I'm sure I'll get past it wink.

Your "close" relative sounds a lot like them. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't believe someone could be so thoughtless.

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