MEH! Here it goes.
Me and husband have been together 10 years and married for five.
A few years back, I made friends with a work colleague (who was very young!) - I say friends but was more of a mentor thing. He was a hipster type early 20’s and I took him under my wing a bit. He was a bit crap at work so worked hard to improve him etc.
Anyway, husband didn’t like it. Especially as he’d text me and it made him suspicious. And I got that...
Anyway. We moved away blah blah.
So, a couple of weeks ago he facebooked me asking if I was OK and asking for my number as he wanted to show me how he’d learned piano and a song he had written. It had been a good couple of years since we chatted.
So gave him my number, he sent the song (was pretty poor! Lol) and I said it was nice. He asked how life was out of London and I just said it was great and that’s that.
Anyway, he decided to reply to that text message today - after weeks. Just saying “sounds good”.
Anyway, I was on sofa with husband and he asked ‘who is that?’ as the unsaved number popped up...
Now, I know I should have just been honest, but I lied. For no other reason than I just couldn’t be arsed with the “why is he texting you? What’s going on?” crap. So I archived the message. Unfortunately, I didn’t see he was standing behind me.
I totally see how it looks dodgy. But anyway, he said it was suspicious and I agreed - especially as I had lied. So I have him my phone - he saw the FB message and the WhatsApp and all very innocent “well done, lovely song etc”.
It’s not the content of the message....but he’s in a right huff now because I wanted to hide it from him.
My argument is that if I brought it up, I’m just going to get questions about it anyway. And I’d rather not have the agro over some random who just wants to show me his little song.
I also don’t want to have to message the poor guy and be like “please stop messaging me” as he is very sweet - bit of a loner - and is only being nice.
How should I approach this now?
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Rebecca980 · 15/06/2020 20:05
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