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Dating & Dealbreakers !!

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PhoenixT Tue 11-Jun-19 18:30:55

After 4 years being single, my daughter convinced me to join a dating site, so I did.
I've had several enquiries and some good conversations and keep putting off actually meeting anyone (I'm Demisexual so it's really hard).
I find the weirdest things deal breakers and some will say I'm stupid I'm sure.

I need a man to be a man. I don't mean toxic masculinity, but a real masculine guy.
Please tell me if I'm weird and never going to find someone.....
I cannot stand a guy who paints his nails for fun or otherwise.
A guy who behaves feminine, even for a joke.
A guy who'd dress up in drag, female fancy dress etc even for fun.
A guy who puts his head on my lap for comforting reasons.

Please don't hate me.
I find these things Really demasculating and am immediately put off and feel grossed/creeped out when this happens.

What's wrong with me??? sad

Gooseygoosey12345 Tue 11-Jun-19 18:44:21

There's nothing wrong with you. You like what you like. And there'll be plenty of people out there who are like that. Obviously no one is perfect but it's finding someone who's flaws are worth overlooking. Good luck!

PhoenixT Wed 12-Jun-19 13:47:20

Thank you. I just feel like I must be weird bit thanks blush

Mammyloveswine Wed 24-Jul-19 17:47:37

What's demisexual??

PhoenixT Thu 25-Jul-19 08:04:05

I don't find anyone sexually attractive until/unless there's an emotional bond first.

Inappropriatefemale Fri 16-Aug-19 02:46:14

I agree with you OP, I am turned off by men that do ‘office’ jobs, I don’t mean high powered business men or anything, I mean like men that would be receptionists or administrators etc, etc, and men that wear shoes!!! I like a man in trainers and/or Boots!

Inappropriatefemale Fri 16-Aug-19 02:46:34

Yeah what is demisexual?hmm

Chewysmum Wed 09-Oct-19 22:55:49

I'm the exact same as you, you're not weird, and I guarantee that many more women are but would never admit it nowadays. In the past I've walked away from a lovely guy because at times I felt more masculine than him. I hate men that are needy, want to constantly text/call me, want to hold hands and cuddle all the time... I could go on.
Funnily enough, I decided to join a dating app recently after about 4 years single, unfortunately I've given up, I found the good apps to be very elitist (I'm uneducated, no career etc) and the likes of POF are just creepy, I got absolutely bombarded by messages within a day and I'm not young or beautiful either. I hope you have much better luck. What you're looking for is not unreasonable

Inappropriatefemale Sun 13-Oct-19 16:30:08

I seem to meet men that want marriage, not necessarily to me, but in general and they totally cannot believe that as a women I have zero interest in ever tying myself to a man for life, no way, I’ve been told from men that I’m like a man, what because they have believe in that stupid thing when I’m TV they always say “women have been dreaming about marriage and planning their big day since they were 5 years old”, confused erm wtf are these women?! I sure don’t know any.

Inappropriatefemale Sun 13-Oct-19 16:31:19

In not I’m women! and woman not women, shitty typing today!

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