My parents are both elderly, though my dad is much older than my Mum at 87. Due to issues with their eyes (for which they have each had operations), diabetes (dad) and just general older age they have at best one fully working eye between them.Both of their sight levels vary in quality but I would never consider them to be good particularly.
Their reactions are slow and some of their decision making when driving is very questionable.
It's got so bad now that neither I, nor my brother will allow them to drive our kids around. They gave my sister a lift somewhere the other day and she was petrified.
I live 250 miles away from my parents. My sister lives in the same village, my brother about an hour away. The village they live in is in the country but with a local
Shop, pub, and two buses an hour to the local biggish town and the Drs they use etc.My parents are not well versed in using public transport though my mum is more up for it than my Dad.It would clearly be less convenient than having a car, but it wouldn't be impossible to manage without. Massive change for them of course which I do understand and they would feel restricted. But my sister would help I think where possible-she doesn't work and her kids have left home.
My siblings and I have tried raising with them that they may not be safe to drive anymore. We have been met with angry reaction, horror at the thought of them 'losing their freedom' and in fact they have just gone out and bought a new fairly large car (which they find impossible to park without scraping it on other vehicles).
I'm so concerned they will kill themselves or someone else.
What can we possibly do about this if they refuse to consider the possibility that they may be unsafe? Shop them to the DVLA and risk ruining our relationship with them (which it would-they would hit the roof).
Anyone any experience of this?
Ironically they went through the exact same thing with my own Grandad when he was in his 80's and were frustrated that he wouldn't listen to reason when they said he should stop driving. He came to his senses when he crashed into a, fortunately empty, parked car one day.My Parents have had lots of scrapes in the last few years but somehow nothing major yet.
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My parents are unsafe to drive-what to do?
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DarthNigel · 20/01/2018 18:32
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