Dying of guilt, need advise!

(3 Posts)
Joshgroban Fri 21-Oct-16 17:10:32

I've been married for four years now and have a 17mo girl. So, my ex boyfriend had been trying to send me requests on social media sites and I've been declining them and had blocked him from my account for years. But the other day he I don't know why but I accepted his fb chat request!! Why on earth would I do it? I don't know, I guess I was just curious. We chatted for quite a while and somehow my husband read our chat while he was at work. He text me and i didn't reply quick enough and as he was obviously viewing my chat simultaneously he was furious. I did not have any wrong intentions while chatting to my ex, it was just a friendly chat and we asked about each other's lives. But my conscious kept telling me I shouldn't be doing this and I kept ignoring. Then my ex suggested if we talk, as in fb voice call and I agreed! Why did I do that? I thought it wasn't right but I agreed? Then received a text from my husband sounding mad out of the blue. And I just realised what a huge mistake I was making. To cut a long story short, I didn't speak to my ex & ended the chat there & deleted it.
My husband came home angry because of me & hasn't spoken to me since then. I can't eat or concentrate on anything! I apologised to him several times last night but he said he doesn't trust me anymore! I'm devastated and haven't stopped crying since then. He still won't talk to me or eat anything I cook.
PLEASE ADVISE ME WHAT TO DO? I'm dying of guilt :'(

HappyCamel Fri 21-Oct-16 17:26:48

I think it's ok to communicate with people you know and that your DH is massively over reacting.

If you'd gone on a date or flirted it would be different but you've had a one off catch up/chat.

carmenta Fri 21-Oct-16 17:28:45

Eh? Why can't you talk to an ex? You're chatting, you're not shagging him.

If DH tried that kind of excessive jealousy on with me I would tell him to stop being ridiculous. Relationships should be built on trust, not control.

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