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Frequentlyconfused Tue 11-Oct-16 00:04:03

My boyfriend is 36 and I'm 19. So far it's been a very healthy relationship I do a lot for him and he does a lot for me. I just wanted some tips or comments about the age difference.

JunosRevenge Sat 19-Nov-16 10:13:03

Age is just a number. If you are happy together, carry on being happy together smile

Aquamarine1029 Wed 11-Jan-17 21:16:18

You're an adult now so who you date is your prerogative. Just stay smart and always look at your relationship with open eyes and not rose-colored glasses. If he starts trying to control you, it's time to leave and don't look back.

Jenwen22 Sun 05-Mar-17 13:07:23

I was 21 when I started dating my (then) 42 yr old ex. We were together for six years, lived together and genrally did very well. In the end we broke up as we were two different people. The point is age doesn't matter and the reasons we broke up was the same as many same age couples, so long as you are happy that is all that matters. You are both adults and as such can make your own decisions; life is too short at the end of the day. Enjoy yourself and just treat it like u would any other healthy relationships xx

DurhamDurham Sun 05-Mar-17 13:12:48

As the mother of a 19 year old girl I think I would find the age difference difficult to come to terms with. I just can't imagine what a 30+ man would have in common with her. I know that's a silly thing to say as everyone is different. I would wonder how long it could last and the likelihood of it being a 'success'.
As two adults you have to make your own decisions but these of my views as a mum.

ScarletFever Sun 05-Mar-17 13:17:03

I just wanted some tips or comments about the age difference


LucieLucie Sun 23-Apr-17 22:19:50

Up until recently Op? Has something happened to make you question things?

Personally i think it's a big age gap, he's a grown man and your obviously a very young woman in your prime.

As long as you're happy and feel safe and loved by him that's all that matters?

Handsfull13 Tue 05-Sep-17 23:23:14

Your going to get some funny looks and probably at lot of questions. Your parents might not be happy about it. But if your happy it doesn't matter. I have a 14yr gap and met my dp at 21 we now have two beautiful babies and a lovely home together

Abbylee Thu 07-Sep-17 03:19:55

My mother and grandmother and i all had the age difference relationships. I was lucky and married a man 2.5 years older. I often am thankful for the opportunity to laugh about the shared experiences of our youth which was impossible with Older, but the thing that all 3 of us had difficulty with was that what was new and interesting to us was "already saw/did that" to them. It gets annoying after a bit.

I found my dh 30 years ago when i was 25. "Older" was good for a while but i know that it was the right decision for us to end it. I adore growing old with dh.

My father was 12 years older and outlived my mother by several years. Life is unpredictable. Best wishes.

highinthesky Thu 07-Sep-17 03:59:44

Tips? Always be honest with each other, regardless of age.

AdalindSchade Thu 07-Sep-17 04:14:20

I struggle to see what a 30 something can have to connect with a teenager over and the difference in life stages and emotional maturity is vast...unless the 30 something is particularly immature, which doesn't bode well

Abbylee Thu 07-Sep-17 05:12:48

I meant mother, grandmother and i all had the age difference complaint of being young and excited but our partners had already done whatever the experience was and didn't care to repeat and wouldn't although it wasn't hurting them.

The one thing that is sometimes a worry is the issue of children. Do not let him decide that for you. You are still learning about life; I'm not sure what "doing a lot" for one another entails, but listen to your instincts; my Older was passive aggressively abusive. As previous post asked, are you having questions for a reason? Take care.

FisforFamily Thu 07-Sep-17 05:47:46


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