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Not telling parents about being pregnant

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AmberRose16 Fri 08-Apr-16 21:30:47

Okay well I was just wondering if I am in the right for feeling how I do, and if anyone has any suggestions. I have decided not to tell my parents for a lot of reasons. The main reason is that they have alienated me for the past few years, since my sister had a baby. She still lives with them (24 yo) and all they care about is her baby which is 4. Ppl have even commented how she has almost "assumed control over the child", she only takes pics of her and the baby and posts them, never any of my sister, it's almost like its my parents kid. No one knows that my sister exists. But the main reason is I have tried to have a relationship with them, I'm just tired of being blown off. The only way I ever hear from them is if I call and hunt them down. And then they give me a ton of BS about how I don't talk to them, as if they are too good to call me ever or message me on Facebook. I've decided since I don't seem to be a priority in their life, I'm not gonna go search them out to let them know I'm pregnant. Plus, when they found out my sister was gonna move to England to be with her baby's dad, her husband, they didn't like it, and practically destroyed her marriage, brainwashing her to leave him so she would stay in the US. They were horrible and mentally abusive to me growing up, To the point I gave myself to the army at age 17 just to leave the house, but I've tried to forgive them. It just seems like there really doesn't seem like they care much about me, so why should I waste my happy news on them? Any opinions would be appreciated, am I in the wrong?

Gingernut81 Tue 03-May-16 23:33:35

Didn't want to read and run, it sounds like you've had a really tough time. It sounds like your parents are incredibly manipulative. My feeling is that if they haven't been part of your life for some time and you are happy for things to stay this way then perhaps you don't tell them. The phrase "you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family" sounds appropriate here. What does your partner think? Do you have the support of their family and friends to help you when baby arrives?

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