I am renewing my will because I'm recently divorced. When it came to naming who I would want the children to go to (2 girls under 10), should both my ExH and I pass, I chose a really good friend and her husband over my brother.
However I'm feeling a little bad because he would be shattered ( he has one son and he and his wife have tried but are unable to have more children). He loves his nieces to death.
I love my brother and get along great but I can't say I like his wife much and their views on the world, and towards education, life etc are very different to mine.
The fiend who I have named as guardian clearly loves my girls too and is amazing and a great mum / professional and she too has only one child and is struggling to have any more.
She is a fabulous role model for my girls and she and her husband would expose the girls to so many wonderful things my brother would not (travel, encouraging further education, languages, worldly views).
My friend is Canadian like me and lives in the UK but my brother (and my parents) live in Canada.
However, is blood thicker than water? My brother would be devastated if he found out. Should I keep the girls "in the family" and put my brother down as guardian? They wouldn't be short of love in his home, my brother is a real softy (although I do find his wife a bit scary)
My brother and I are close but we're not close with our parents so there is little extended family in Canada. There is also a chance later on he may move to Australia with his wife.
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Ethical dilemmas
not choosing my sibling for the guardian
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Mumtumwhatever · 04/04/2016 03:01
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