Hi all, thought I would ask for some honest insight into the situation. My MIL is from Thailand, FIL is British and a prat, buts that's another story,my DM is Polish, DF is British. The first time I met my now MIL, I was 16, and had a bit of a fairytale idea of how the initial introductions would go...turns out, it was shit. She didn't say a word to me the whole time, only asked DH questions about me and when I attempted to answer them, she spoke over me. I guess she got bored with that after a while, and started speaking Thai to DH, who clearly acknowledged her rudeness and answered her in English. We left pretty swiftly, and DH was so apologetic. Fast forward about a week...I walked into DH's bedroom (thank god he didn't live with his mother!) and he was on the phone to MIL. He asked her what her problem is and I heard her say "you're dating a white girl". Fast forward again 5 years: DH and I are married (btw MIL refused to come to the wedding after she found out the ceremony would be relayed in Polish) with beautiful baby DD...and his mother still hates me. And refuses to acknowledge our DD.
Now, I'm assuming some of you have twigged onto where my confusion stems from...my MIL hates me so much because I'm white, but she married and had DH with FIL who, you guessed it, is white! So, am I missing something? Can anyone lend any insight as to why it's such a problem for her son to be married to a white British woman, but it's ok for her to have once been married to a white British man?! I have an inkling as to what the answer is, but I don't think it's even worth the bother to confront her with it.
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AsYourMakerICommandYou · 29/09/2015 15:08
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