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Pregnant with 3rd, feeling depressed(4 Posts)
I am about 6 weeks pregnant , I have two kids (7 and 5 ) who are my life. I am married. When I found out I was expecting it was very shocking( it was totally unplanned) . Although I always wanted to have 3 kids, after having my two active and energetic kids I decided I was done. I was going to do tubal ligation but for some reason never did it. Also after delivering my second I became very ill with my blood pressure. I've taking medication for bp for about 15 yrs now ( I am 36)
This pregnancy has me very depressed, scared, terrified. I feel I don't want this child and I have booked an abortion appointment.
I never thought I would be in this situation , but having 2 kids make me want to protect them and dont put my life in risk by having another baby and be at risk of having a stroke or seizures.
I was determined to do a termination until I have read how guilty people feel afterwards. I don't want to put my family in jeopardy but don't want to feel regrets for the rest of my life.
There is an ante-natal choices topic on here that should attract posters with some experience.
If you are not sure then it sounds like you need to talk it through with a professional.
What would be the ideal outcome for you do you think?
I don't think anyone should feel guilty about having an abortion. Many people feel no guilt whatsoever, just gratitude that we live in a society which gives us a choice.
There are far too many people on the planet, and I often feel guilty for having a (much wanted) third child.
I'm very sorry you are going through this.
A lot of us don't feel regrets. It is not written in stone that you will regret it.
I had mine 6yrs ago now, and not one moment has been filled with regret, or wishing I hadn't done it.