Classic story of one wanting another child (me) & the other one not. This was thrashed out between us for a good while when DC2 was about 1 (now 3.5) and I had to finally accept for the sake of our marriage that it wasn't meant to be. So, other than the odd lighthearted mention, usually when an outsider brings up the subject of more children, neither of us discuss it and it's fair to say DH has no idea that I still desperately want another child.
I don't think I day goes by when I don't think about either being pregnant or envisage our family as 5 not 4 especially if I see a large family or baby (I work in childcare so quite often!) but I never comment out loud.
We have an otherwise very loving & open relationship and part of me feels I'm betraying him by not being honest about my feelings, but, I'm also aware that telling him my true feelings will dredge up an old argument & it could be seen as some sort of emotional blackmail. Should I carry on keeping quiet & hope that when the reality of not physically being able to have children arrives (5, 10 years maybe?) it stops the emotional desire or, come clean & at least ask him to share the burden?
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Ethical dilemmas
Should I tell OH how I really feel?
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lechatnoir · 11/11/2012 18:00
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