My dp is being badly bullied at work by his manager and I was wondering if anyone could help us with advice or similar experiences?
He works in catering as a head chef and his manager is a horrible, insecure, miserable man who takes great pleasure in other people's suffering. He turns on the charm when his superiors are around (which isn't too often) but spends most of his time bitching and whining about members of staff behind their backs. As my dp never wanted to join in with the slagging sessions and stayed out of them and is in a fairly senior position he became victim number one.
He is now in the position where the manager and his cronies are continually complaining about his work and talking about him behind his back. The manager actively tries to sabotage his work, for example when he thought my dp had forgotten to order something he said to another member of staff "he's forgotten to order the [whatever], I'm not going to remind him though, he's going to get into trouble". When one of the junior members of staff complained to the manager about having too high workload the manager encouraged him to write to a more senior manager and complain about dp without even mentioning the issue to dp.
I'm getting so frustrated with the situation, my dp is regularly coming home from work distressed and miserable and there's nothing we can do about it. Other staff have complained about this manager and even left the company because of him but nothing ever gets done about him.
I told my dp to start keeping a diary of all events that he will be able to use in order to make a proper complaint of bullying to the company but he just says there's no point because he can't prove anything. I'm so angry because his company has loads of "best 100 places to work" type awards! They must have a proper procedure to deal with bullying. But this manager has charmed his superiors so they believe what he says and terrified his juniors into submission so that my dp feels that no one will support him or believe him.
I'm just so so angry about this whole mess! It shouldn't be allowed! Sorry for the long and rambling message... We just really need some support!
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hotCheeseBURNS · 18/06/2010 16:11
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