I am a care assistant, he starved himself to death.
By layed out, I mean I prepared him for the undertaker, not coshed him one!
I'm so angry with him, this was totally preventable, and God he died hard. Such a f^cking mess. The manager said she was going to come and lay him out, in the end she couldn't so I had to do it on my own, cos I ain't asking no 19 year old girl to do that, no way.
I am getting too old too fast with this job. That was the most distressing thing I have ever had to deal with.
I admire you Colditz. My mother has just started this work and has already found certain aspects of it distressing. I know she will encounter this one day as some of the people are well into their nineties. I'm just glad that there are people who are able not just to do this work but to actually care about it too. My mother wishes she had started years ago - she has found her vocation at the age of 58 (and, yes, there are days when she needs a drink too but generally just the one).
At the end of the day, I just couldn't let him go to the undertakers in the state he was in, I wanted him to have some dignity. It's not too much to ask that when you stop breathing someone will make sure you are clean and dressed, in a clean bed.
can i say thank you ..............he was not my dad, but he prob was someones ..and for you to care enough to give him that sort of respect at the end is heart warming..you are a star and an angel [[[[hugs]]]