Ok here goes:
Been having ongoing issues with my manager since she took over about 4 months ago. Sometimes she can be fantastic and other times she just screams at me and is totally unreasonable. This has been carrying on despite me asking her specifically not to shout and that the best way to deal with me is to talk. I have had quite a few jobs and am almost 30 i have never been managed in such a disrespectful way.
Anyway 2 weeks ago my dh had enough, came into work and called the manager from her office and had a few words (she was at home) , telling her to leave me alone as i am pregnant and this is highly unproffessional he does not like seeing me upset. Now i know what he did was wrong but he was at the end of his tether as was I.
I have apologised countless times to my manager about his behaviour but explained that she has upset me and been very aggresive she does not agree. I also told her i feel ashamed and embarrassed by the situation. I left it a week and asked what was going to happen, she told me she does not want to look at me or work with me as was still shaking after the incident. In all fairness i have been shaking and scared about going into work for the last 3/4 motnhs due to her behaviour.
She told me last week that we will have a meeting with her and area manager and i asked if i was going to lose my job, she said she would not tell me and will have the meeting when she feels better!
so i have waited, was undercut wages by 5 hours last fortnight and called to question this today and asked if there was any progress on meeting the area manager, and she tells me he is coming today! I have been given no notice of this at all! I asked if this was a formal meeting and if so then i would have the right to bring along some support, esp being more vulnerable being pregnant, she said no because she doesnt want formal process! I said ok looking forward to meeting him but if the meeting becomes tenuos i will be stopping the meeting till support arrives for me.
I have been under an incredible amount of stress and had asked to start my mat leave at the earliest date i can and she declined my request telling me she left 13 weeks before her baby was due got bored and resented her baby! But i just want out but i cant afford to leave as i need the mat pay.
Do i have a right to leave this meeting if it gets to much? Do i have the right to ask for some support? Can i ask to meet with him alone and then with the manager or does she have to be present? Can i ask for the incident to be investigated as she refused to do so when i discussed with her last week? Can i be sacked when i didnt call her it was my dh??
Sorry for very very long post!!
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iateallthecreameggsyummy · 28/07/2009 13:29
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