I started my public sector job in mid-October last year. When I started, I immediately asked for my annual leave for my wedding/honeymoon in January, which was fine (had just enough to cover it).
I'd had a miscarriage about a month before I started, and thought I'd take ages to get pregnant again.
In early December I got very ill with a chest infection/influenza. I was off for two weeks, went back for one day but was too ill to stay, so GP gave me a note for another two weeks (which ran into my annual leave). In mid-December I found out I was pregnant again. Just as the chest infection was clearning, I started getting sick the week before the wedding (at 6 weeks) and carried on through wedding/honeymoon with terrible nausea, fatigue, and occasional vomiting. We moved house when we got back and I couldn't help with anything.
I was feeling worse and worse, vomiting more, feeling very depressed (have had major depression since age 16, am 32 now). GP referred me to mental health team, restarted me on antidepressants, and signed me off for 2 weeks. Continued to be tearful, sick, nauseous, & exhausted. GP signed me off for another month.
So today I tried to go back to work. I showered (my biggest achievement most days), got dressed, then starting puking everywhere. Didn't feel like I could make it very far, luckily GP is only 5 min away, and I nearly puked in the car. Called boss and said I wasn't going to make it. GP signed me off for two weeks.
I feel as though I should quit my job since it seems like I will never make it back there. I already know I don't want to go back after maternity leave as it's a shit job and I never should have taken it. I wouldn't get anything beyond SMP anyway. Combined with the time I spent temping and working in a pub before I started this job, I think I have enough weeks working to qualify for MA.
For sick pay I get 1 month full pay and two months half pay. I'm not sure what happens beyond that. I believe I'm now on the first month of 1/2 pay.
I am just not sure what to do. I feel rotten and completely incapable of being at work without puking/bursting into tears. But who stays off work for their entire pregnancy? I am 15 weeks tomorrow and it feels like this will never end.
What do I need to think about as far as quitting vs. staying off sick? I haven't been at my job for nearly 3 months now due to all of the above. They will probably look to get rid of me if I don't quit voluntarily, won't they?
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Pregnant & miserable: Quit or keep taking sick leave?
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sarah76 · 02/03/2009 11:51
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