how do I decide between 2 jobs?

[moneyVSheart]

Job 1 -

been there 4 weeks.
is ok.
long hours
better money
far away so lots of travelling - early mornings and late nights
starting to settle but taken a while

Job 2 -

closer
shorter hours
less money per hour
would be £50 less a week. (not factoring in the money saved travelling)
been offered it now, wanted it before but fell through, they really really want me
heart says YES YES YES

The problem is the gulit. The guilt of leaving the first job, after they have spent time starting me off etc. Will be very difficult for them, but I also feel If Im not happy I should leave asap rather than further down line. If guilt was removed the choice would be obvious.

But I have made a commitment to job 1, so morally I should follow through yes?

So confused. Job 2 opportunity will NOT come up again. Is one position and one only, its because of where it is and who its with I want it. (hard to explain without giving game away to employer)

opinions please...

[pinkspottywellies]

'heart says YES YES YES'

There you go, that's your answer.

[katz]

our working lives are too long to stay in a job you don't want if you can have a job you want.

What are the long term prospects of each?

[pinkteddy]

It sounds like a no brainer - got to be job 2. Yes you will feel guilty about job 1 but if you don't take the other you will regret it and it will affect how you feel about job 1 anyway. You can write a nice letter when you resign explaining that you are very sorry to leave but once in a lifetime opportunity etc etc

[bran]

Go with your heart. Commuting doesn't get any easier with time IME, the early mornings and late nights get more tiring the longer you do them.

[moneyVSheart]

Just spoken to job 2 boss, was on phone for an hour.

Minds made up, the only thing is the guilt.

After tomorrow the position will be free, and I will speak to employer and make definite decision then.

It feels right.

Thanks.

[llareggub]

Get the offer in writing before you say anything to employer 1. Sorry if that's obvious, but it is easy to get caught up in the moment.

[ChukkyPig]

I had this two months ago.

I went with my heart.

I am very happy!

Don't feel guilty it's your happiness and future, the current employer will get over it, and hopefully get someone to replace you who is really keen on the job. So everyone will be a winner!