Ive been with a new company less than a month after being with last employer for 10 years. I am finding it really hard to settle in. I get on really well with people in general but i am finding it hard getting on with the people in my office (about 14 folk). They are a bit kleeky! and we were all away recently for a few days for work reasons and I know its pathetic but no one was really taking me under their wing so to speak! I was left on my own and i constantly has to talk to people - they didnt make the effort to talk to me! Im not dull - honest! and ive loads of interests! One person in the office has been particularly funny i.e not talking to me at all & i have just found out his wife went for my job and never got it! Has anyone else has this before - I am really thinking of chucking in the towel! I cant afford it but I really dread going in not because fo the work but because of the people!I know im a woos! Im the MD's secretary I dont know if they think I will be telling him all their secrets!
It sounds like you're having a hard time of it at the moment, but you should definitely stick it out. Settling into a new job always takes time. One month is not long at all. You must have been very comfortable in your old job having been there for 10 years. This is a complete change for you and must be difficult, but it will get easier. Maybe the other staff members have been working together for quite a while and are a little cold towards new-comers until they get to know them. Don't worry, you're sure to find their friendly side soon enough. And don't take it personally about the guy whose wife also went for your job. He would doubtless hold it against whoever had taken the job, not just you. However, that will wear off in time when he gets to know you.
Working in a new environment is always difficult, but when they get to know what a wonderful person you are it will be fine. Good luck!!!