I just want to moan really. Went back to work 7 months ago and finally persuaded DH that life was just too much both of us working f/t and we agreed that l'd drop my hours to 4 days a week. I am a lawyer and always knew it would be a bit of long shot given type of work I do. however many other women in my firm do 4 days (some even do 3).
To cut a long story short, at the meeting which was supposed to discuss how the proposals would work in practice, I was told that I was inflexible becuase I wasn't working late/weekends etc therefore they were going to refuse my request. It was clear within 2 minutes of starting the meeting (three of them, 1 of me) that my request was going to be refused. I was so gobsmacked at what they were saying, I just sat there like a lemon, not saying much. It took me all my strength to get out of the room without bursting into tears (which I did big style after I left room in the ladies loos).
My formal letter came and naturally it had all the business reason crap that you could say about virtually anyone's job; i.e. expected to regularly work in excess of contracted hours, need to be availalbe at short notice for meetings here, there and everywhere, had to think about expectations of other team members...... Was told that the usual right to appeal to head of department wouldn't work as he had been part of the decision making process (had been told originally by my boss when I raised issue that HOD didn't like the idea of part time in our dept, although there is one other person who does it) therefore I would need to appeal to the head of the firm! BA*ds
NOT the way to motivate your staff. So, essentially I think they want to get rid of me and thought this was the way to do it. I have decided not to appeal but my work life is horrible now. My boss is being even more arsy than usual and really cold towards me. He keeps sending arse covery e mails and I just want to walk out here and now. Am looking at other options but don't want to walk into something similar elsewhere..
I am actually off sick at the moment with something which I think has been caused by all the stress. I just feel as if l'm in a big black hole and can't get out.
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flexible working- also turned down :(
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cocopops · 18/02/2005 11:00
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