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Would you take one someone if there were honest with you about there mental health issues?????

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whoopsididitagain Tue 22-Jul-08 13:48:28

ie anxiety, panic attacks, depression

i.e cant leave the house control my breathing speak to anyone but this has happened less and less over the last 8 months and i now think im on the right meds for me

as i want to go back to work but when i get bad i get really bad

and being a hairdresser [quite demanding need to work to time, interact with lots of people need to look immacualte at all times]

i dont know if they would risk it but asi know im a very talented stylist and have never ever failed an interveiw or trade test

how could i prove it's my mental health which is stopping the employer taking me on ???
have tried this on going back to work no one is helping

any employers that give me your view ???

GooseyLoosey Tue 22-Jul-08 13:53:25

I suffer from terrible anxiety so I know where you are coming from (although fortunately I can leave the house). If I am honest, I would not employ someone who I thought would not be able to do their job properly because of anxiety.

Could you do self-employed hair dressing where you went around to people's houses or they came to you?

Can you get the leaving the house thing under control and then look for a job?

whoopsididitagain Tue 22-Jul-08 14:07:20

you see i have tried mobile hairdressing and im ok if i have met the person first but if not i get paniced

i can get out the house at the mo but dont know when or if my next attck will occur iyswim

FioFio Tue 22-Jul-08 14:08:28

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whoopsididitagain Tue 22-Jul-08 15:09:36

the thought of working is enough to give me a panic attack tbh but

i know if i had someth
ing to focus on rather just my knitting and jewellery i thik i would feel alot better about my self at the mo i feel locked into a very self depreciating i want to work but i cant beacuase if i do and i cant do it i have to re start all my benefits again and the stress of it scares the pants off me

and also i think knowing i have to get ready to go work would spur me up and on rather at the mo if i dont feel great i just fester in bed

my depression seems worse than my panic attacks at the mo but saying that i havent been any where on my own not even to the local shop since the end of april i always have to have my lo or my bf with me.

i just feel stuck and i think getting a job would do my self esteem the world of good

MadBadandDangeroustoKnow Tue 22-Jul-08 18:16:16

Are you receiving help or therapy for your anxiety? If so, that would be something you could demonstrate to an employer, as evidence that you were getting the problem under control.

You also need to establish whether your condition brings you within the scope of the Disability Discrimination Act (if it's a longstanding condition and affects your daily life then I think it does), as employers cannot discriminate against disabled people. Hopefully an employment lawyer will be along soon to advise better ....

whoopsididitagain Tue 22-Jul-08 20:09:34

mad bad i love your name rofl can i have it lol

erm and bump

MadBadandDangeroustoKnow Tue 22-Jul-08 21:32:42

Whoops - I like your name too! In real life I'm actually a very meek person - MBDK is my alter ego!

Was thinking about this just now - do you have a benefits adviser? Can they support you through the return to work? Many years ago I was an HR manager and at that time we had some supported placements (although I don't think that was their proper name) for people with disabilities. Can your adviser give you up-to-date information on those?

I know it sounds pedantic, but I think you need to approach this as being about a disability, rather than ^mental health problems^. That isn't about denying your mental health problems - which you're obviously trying to overcome - but about ensuring that employers have focus on the DDA.

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