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How to switch off and forget work???????

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happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:06:52

I have a very stressful job, managing some particularly unpleasant people (and some nice ones).

i have only been doing it 6 months and the pay is excellent (hence why i haven't jacked it in YET)... but i just CANNOT switch off - its awful, non stop ticking over in my mind worrying, planning, "dealing" with the nasty people in my head, i even dream about work and wake up stressed.

its starting to take over my life and i really don't want to jack it cause i'm a single parent and finally earning decent dosh... please please somebody help me!!!!!!!!

llareggub Thu 10-Jul-08 21:07:26


happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:11:48


StressTeddy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:13:09

oh I agree - mn and glass of wine

happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:14:42

goes off to get (another) glass of wine grin

looopy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:16:11

agree but sometimes I realise the glass of wine has turned into a bottle!

StressTeddy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:16:31

seriously, try being really active
Make a cake?
clean something?

Nope, first option still sounding favourable

Cheers babe

happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:28:39

hmmm i am knackered after work.. make a cake?? eat one, yes. The wine still wins... er nothing wrong with a bottle is there? wink

ScottishMummy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:29:54

give yourself permission to switch off.
differentiate home time from work time. bath,wine,
fave dvd,
pampering with hair conditioner, face mask etc, aromatherapy oils in bath
good book

finally deep breath- it is only a job. honestly

PeaMcLean Thu 10-Jul-08 21:32:10

Do you ever check emails from home? Bring work home? That's the killer for me cos I then spend time in the evenign thinking work instead of switching off. MN helps, and gardening.

happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:32:25

Its very good advice SM - just brought all the Sex and City DVDs! Trouble is i then go off to bed and it all comes back to me. Maybe a good man is needed, anyone got a spare one?!

OrmIrian Thu 10-Jul-08 21:33:30

Don't know. But recently I've been trying the wine treatment a bit too much hmm

2cats2many Thu 10-Jul-08 21:34:33

At stressful times with my job, I write a list of all the things I have to deal with the next day, worries, etc when I get home.

Some how that seems to help me to 'park' those issues until the next day when I'm back at work.

Evelynsmum Thu 10-Jul-08 21:35:25

A bit hippy but a relaxation CD may help...

ScottishMummy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:37:05

oh i am loving SATC again. coo had forgoten i liked it

deanychip Thu 10-Jul-08 21:37:47

hmm, i had this problem, still do sometimes.
My job is also very very stressful and i have always ticked stuff over in my head at night and in the evenings.
I do find that crap telly works, but i need to watch it for a few hours.
Bed time, i have a notebook at the side of the bed, i write down ideas and strong thoughts and tell myself in my head, "deal with it in the morning"
That kind of subconciously puts it to one side if you will till later.
it is hard, but if you dont sort it, then it will make you ill,

happynewme Thu 10-Jul-08 21:38:05

Yep, Pea i work from home one day a week so have the link at home. I got a day off tomorrow and am NOT NOT NOT logging on!
Think i will try and find relax CD

PeaMcLean Thu 10-Jul-08 21:39:53

OOOh that's tricky cos then you'll log on to MN, or just to do something or other, then you'll go "oh I'll just check my emails..."


preggersplayspop Thu 10-Jul-08 21:46:15

If you find the answer please let me know! Whatever you do don't get a blackberry if you find it hard to switch off. They are not called crackberrys for nothing. I have a love-hate relationship with mine.

The list idea is good. Before my maternity leave when I used to be more organised (sigh) I would always write a to do list at the end of the day to tackle the next day. It sort of rounded off the day and helped me close things off in my head before I headed home for the day. Also meant I would start the next day feeling really organised.

What is your commute like? Now I have a slightly longer, but more relaxing one, I find it easier to mentally separate work from home. I have an expensive addiction to magazines which help me switch off on the commute! I have a stressful job but I LOVE crappy magazines and celebrity gossip. It fills my head with something other than work.

Mumsnet is certainly a godsend, i can get lost in it for hours without thinking about work. Just finished working now so having my MN fix before I go to bed in a hopefully relaxed state.

looopy Thu 10-Jul-08 21:46:18

Know what you mean re checking emails from home, I have to resist so much not to...but try not to I've made the mistake and then got wound up about something. The writing things down is a good idea I often sit up in bed make a few notes and then find with it out of my head I can go to sleep, bath before bed also helps...with the bottle of wine of course, absolutely right nothing wrong with that! smile

daffodill6 Thu 10-Jul-08 21:50:23

Swimming helps me - i can fit in 30 lengths twice a week when dd has after school activities --- not talking super fit - just a swift breaststroke witout goggles!

OrmIrian Thu 10-Jul-08 21:53:23

Exercise is good too. Running helps me but I can't find time every night.

MrsWednesday Thu 10-Jul-08 21:58:55

Agree with exercise, middle-of-the-night to-do lists and mumsnet! I do find it hard though, and last night I ended up doing some cooking which was surprisingly therapeutic. Hot bath and a good book too.

I try to remind myself that it's only a job and that no one is going to die (only works if you're not a doctor/policeman etc smile).

whatdayisit Thu 10-Jul-08 22:08:36

Run - I find there's no problem too big it can't be solved by a hour's running

happynewme Fri 11-Jul-08 15:15:23

Had a tarot card reading today (not done that for years!) - it was wierd how much came up without me telling her anything at all. Anyway, basics of it were get out of the job because of effects on health and home life. Long term i know its true but going to try and stick it til christmas to get some money stashed away and hopefully find something better and part time til DS is older.

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