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New job tomorrow - getting nervous!

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chocolatekimmy · 09/09/2007 20:48

Hi

I start a new job tomorrow - YIKES!!!!

I had an awful time at my last Company. I was bullied by my boss, went through (or at least started) a formal grievance process but ended up going off sick with stress at the 4 week mark when I was told I would have to wait another 6 weeks before being given an outcome/resolution for the first stage! This was all happening during a period of great stress in my personal life that had been going on since the end of last year (thats another story - and another name though!) which is thankfully now concluded.

But, things are looking up. I am over my last Company and I am looking forward to starting my new job. Its with the NHS which is completely new for me and quite a senior position. The downside is that I have to go full time whereas I only did 2.5 days per week before.

I feel guilty about my three children (6, 3, 1) and having them in longer day care and breakfast/afterschool club etc. I look on the positive side that hopefully it won't be five days a week forever and that there will be some flexibility. I've also pretty much had the last 14 months at home anyway (bar about 6 weeks of part time work).

Has anyone got any tips for getting over the guilt I feel about leaving the children?

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flowerybeanbag · 09/09/2007 20:53

Oh chockimmy that's fantastic, congratulations! I was wondering about you the other day and was going to post to see how you were getting on.

No useful tips about getting over the guilt though I'm afraid, not very helpfully.
I do have a close friend who is pretty senior in HR in the NHS.
What sector were you in previously?
[nosey emoticon]

Best of luck tomorrow anyway

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chocolatekimmy · 09/09/2007 21:12

Thanks a lot flowery, glad you are on tonight.

I've been mainly posting under my other name lately as the other issue has just peaked and concluded last week (thank god).

I was a HR Manager (supply chain) at one of the top five supermarkets - but I thought I would try something new!

The NHS hospital is a Foundation Trust, I will be Head of HR Operations and I am really looking forward to stepping up again now I have finished with having babies.

Its just that it has come a lot sooner (a few years) than I expected it to. I really was forced out of the last place, real shame to be honest as the hours were perfect, teh job was good, but my boss was a complete arse. Despite being off since the end of July, and my last official day being end of August I still haven't had a formal response to my grievance under the modified procedure. I want to focus on the new job for now so I will give it until early October before seeing a lawyer. I am expecting to have to go to ET anyway, whole thing stinks of a massive cover up - but I'm not afraid of that. They picked the wrong person to mess with!!!

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flowerybeanbag · 09/09/2007 21:21

Ooh spooky! I think that's the same level my friend is at, and yes you guessed it, she was HR Manager at a major supermarket chain previously..

Eek!

It's a shame about your last job, if the hours were good and you enjoyed the work, but it doesn't sound like a good place to be and with a boss like that you are definitely better off out of it I reckon.

And such a good decision to focus on the new job for a bit as well, last thing you want is distractions and stress when you're first starting.

I hope it goes well, and you know where to come if you want to bounce anything off someone...about work stuff or your grievance as well.
Fingers crossed for tomorrow anyway

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chocolatekimmy · 10/09/2007 20:41

It was fine, felt quite relaxed this morning about it - something feels really right about it.

I was made to feel very welcome, all a great confidence boost. Feelings might change by Friday though once it sinks in that its really full time and long term!

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dissle · 10/09/2007 20:44

sorry, whats HR? what does it stand for?

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flowerybeanbag · 10/09/2007 20:47

that's brilliant. Something feeling right is definitely a good sign I reckon. When it's quite a change from where you were previously you would not be surprised to feel a bit 'fish out of water' for a bit, so it sounds really positive.

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dissle · 10/09/2007 20:47

not bieng funny, genuinely interested....

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flowerybeanbag · 10/09/2007 20:48

Dissle - Human Resources, otherwise known as Personnel in some places, although that's getting a bit outdated.

Any clearer?