Hi, I won’t bore anyone reading this with the whole backstory and this may be one for the mental health board instead.
I am in the process of agreeing a settlement agreement for disability discrimination. I have a very strong case and the protected conversations so far acknowledge this. The agreement covers a year’s salary and injury to feelings (which I realise is good, but in no way compensates for the loss of a very specific role and profession that I am unlikely to ever return to). We are also agreeing a reference. The alternative is to continue with the final employment tribunal, which several solicitors and the judge have indicated is likely to succeed, but will mean another year of waiting, worrying and not getting any further forward.
I think I’m reasonably at peace with settling my case at this stage. But what I am really struggling with is the emotional fallout. It’s crushed my confidence. I actively avoid seeing former colleagues - avoiding them if I see them in the supermarket etc. Part of this is sensibly wanting to avoid a conversation and disclosing anything I shouldn’t. But a much bigger part is feeling ashamed - thinking they’re imagining I’ve been sacked/was caught doing something bad/was incompetent etc and that I can’t defend myself and put them straight.
I wonder if anyone here has been through similar - left under a settlement agreement for something that was entirely their employers fault? How did you feel afterwards, knowing that you wouldn’t be able to put your side across? Worrying what others would make of it?
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AsMuchUseAsAMarzipanDildo · 24/02/2020 13:26
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