Hello I’m new smile And just looking for a bit of advice I sometimes think talking to complete strangers can give you a whole new perspective.
So my situation is I’ve recently started a new job as a senior night care assistant back in October. Everything was fine up until the point in December when my dad died one week before Christmas of course I phoned my manager and apologised and asked for bereavement leave as I was in no fit state to come in to work they gave me a week off with pay.
My boss did phone me a day before I was due back and asked if I was okay to come back I said yes mainly because it was a new job and I didn’t want it to look like I was haveing a lot of time off. However hand on heart I wasn’t ready to go back my first night back I kept breaking down even though my deputy manager was okay and did say not to worry about your job your part of our team with it she did more or less imply that everyone has things going on at home and that that’s where I should leave it. However I wasn’t sleeping at night trying to plan a funeral and try sort out my dads things this is all while doing 48 hours a week on night shift.
I started making stupid mistakes at work such as medication errors none of them were serious fortunatelysad .I also wasn’t keeping on top of paperwork. I ended having to take a week of work due to me being so run down with the flu.during that week my manager went round asking if I planned to come back even though I provided a sick note from my doctor.
Last week I was pulled into a meeting by my manager who basically said she felt like she’d let me down because she doesn’t think I’ve been trained properly and would like to work with me for two shifts to see where I’m going so wrong she also mentioned that I was still under probation and didn’t want me to lose my job. This meeting took place two days before my fathers funeral which of course has stressed and upset me enough without having the meeting I’m due to go back to work tommrow but honestly not sure what to do should I quit? Or stay the threat of ending my probation has made me worry all week to the point I’m not sleeping.
It also made it complicated by the fact I’m 4 weeks pregnant I’m terrified of a miscarriage and also afraid to tell my manager. My probation will pass in April and I don’t plan on telling work till I’m around 12-16 weeks if I make it I’m now worried about losing. My job while pregnant and also having to go in the office and tell my manager. I have spoke to my partner who has said stick it out till maternity then look for something after we both unfortunately live with our parents and would like to save up and move out which is easy on the job I’m in.
I have done care work for a long time and this has seriously made me doubt myself and it’s got to the point I’m unsure what to do.
Any advice is honestly going to be helpful I will also mention this is a very well paid job however there is a lot of back stabbing at the company
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Mumtobe32 · 17/02/2020 03:27
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