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HerRoyalFattyness Wed 08-Jan-20 20:45:00

As the title says.

I've been at my workplace now for 2 and a half years.
My manager has never liked me.

Anyway, things are getting bad.

I was off sick August/September as my mental.health took a nose dive.

I'm still in a bad way, but can't afford any more time off and work kindly reduced my days to 4 days to help me out.

But since going back to work I've had nothing but trouble.

I get called sick note "jokingly" on a regular basis
My manager has "jokingly" said.that if I get signed.off again I will have to have a disciplinary.
Telling me she may have to move my room (I'm a nursery nurse and I'm autistic so change upsets me)

Things like that.

Today I was told my paperwork was wrong.
I asked her to show me where and explain how so I could rectify it. She couldn't.

She then asked how things were going with my MH.
I explained I'd had the early intervention team out and that I had been assigned a care coordinator I am meeting on Saturday.
She went into a long monologue about how she feels she doesn't know what to believe because on the one hand I'm in work and then on the other I'm telling her I have a care coordinator and that she has had people lie to her about serious things before.
She mentioned liars 3 times.

I just sat there dumbfounded. I'm not lying. I have no reason to lie.
Yes I'm working, but that doesn't mean I'm not struggling.

I just feel like she is trying to push me out. She knows she legally can't fire me because I haven't done anything wrong, but I just feel like she wants rid.

I don't know what to do. This is just making me feel worse than I already do.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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insancerre Wed 08-Jan-20 21:38:32

I’d find a new job
She sounds toxic

HerRoyalFattyness Wed 08-Jan-20 21:56:16

I'm looking, but nothing decent is coming up at the minute. It's all temporary contracts or I'm taking a pay cut, which I can't really afford.

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strictlymomdancing Thu 09-Jan-20 10:09:40

Put all this in writing and submit a complaint. Is there anyone above her you can complain to? I'd join a union too. This sounds like harassment on the grounds of disability.

MadFrog2020 Sun 12-Jan-20 11:54:54

No advice but that’s awful.

redexpat Fri 17-Jan-20 18:31:57

Every time she asks a question reply with why do you ask? It gives you a bit of time to think.

Are you in a union?

IntermittentParps Sun 19-Jan-20 17:31:44

a) she's bullying you and b) your mental health may well mean she is discriminating against you (if in your case it is long-term/severe and is therefore a protected characteristic).

If there's someone above her, take it to them. And get some legal advice.

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