Has anyone lost their job due to a misunderstanding and got it back?

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Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:07:10

I won't outline events. I want to know if genuine misunderstandings (when no-one is in the wrong) can be mended after contact is terminated.

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Bluntness100 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:08:27

They would need to rehire you, and if they terminated then it would seem they feel you were in thr wrong, unless new facts came to light that they have accepted cleared you?

Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:20:47

I walked out, after falling in love with a job and working flat out there, giving my all, because I felt unimportant to management and people who were doing less than me were offered tiny progressions or rewards, but I was not. I was hiding this for two months, trying to rise above the issue and turn the other cheek. Some managers also spoke to me in unacceptable ways -- the last of these was deemed 'not ok' by head manager but she didn't do anything beyond get him to apologise to me. She didn't say 'please don't let it get to you, you are great, let me give you a tiny bit more training on this machine since you've been so enthusiastic'. That's all it would have taken. Anyway, I walked out without really meaning to lose the job, I just felt so heartbroken as it's all I had.

Then manager called to see if I was ok, I asked for a tiny bit of progression, just something, and she agreed. We were sorting that out via email. Then, out of nowhere, 2 days later, she emailed saying they couldn't find any hours for me due to some new hires/ staff changes. It's an outdoor activities centre and their margins are tight for this season as they're not doing as well as last year, but this is unfair, I just didn't tell them exactly how I felt because I'm very proud

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Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:24:12

I know it's a bad strategy, I was overwhelmed by my feelings of worthlessness after so much dedication and thought they would see. I didn't know how to make them understand

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C0untDucku1a Fri 26-Jul-19 13:25:54

Yeah youre not getting that job back. Start looking for better ones

Bluntness100 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:25:56

I think you need to speak to them. No one here can tell you if they will take you back or not, if really depends if they have the space available for uou and if they wish to.

Shakennotshook Fri 26-Jul-19 13:27:15

That's not a misunderstanding though. You got your answer, move on and find something new.


LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Fri 26-Jul-19 13:27:55

Why would you want it back? They can't give you what you want, they're not good managers, the people who spoke in an unacceptable way will continue to do this, the manager you spoke to can't actually change anything.

If you want to take anything positive from this, yes - you should have spoke up sooner and in a more constructive way. But you would probably have ended up in the same position, to be honest.

Head up and look for something else where you'll be appreciated.

Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:31:31

I want it back because I was rejected from all other positions in the area (all retail) due to being overqualified. Can't move out of the area, looking after 2 ill parents. I'm trapped.

I want it back because the positives outweighed the negatives. All they needed was to tell me nice things from time to time.

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Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:32:24

And because I just need money to look after my parents

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Shakennotshook Fri 26-Jul-19 13:32:29

But can you not see it's too late? You walked out and threw your toys out of the pram.

C0untDucku1a Fri 26-Jul-19 13:33:29

all they needed was to tell me nice things from time to time

This is ridiculous. Really. Youre not a child. Is this your first job?

seven201 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:33:37

Are you quite young? It sounds like you bottled everything up and now are having to suffer the consequences of walking out. I know it shouldn't be the case, but a lot of us feel under appreciated at work. I still wish I'd stayed in my first proper job - I left as I felt unappreciated. In reality it was the best job I've had and I would be on lots more money now if I'd stuck it out.

It sounds like they either genuinely don't have space for you now or they're making excuses as they don't want a troublesome employee.

Abhann Fri 26-Jul-19 13:33:58

But what was the 'misunderstanding'? You didn't feel valued and you walked out, as was your right.

Lazypuppy Fri 26-Jul-19 13:34:43

You sound very dramatic! You walked out, thats not a misundertanding

Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:35:08

Everyone needs encouragement esp when your job is your life and home is hell. I just didn't tell anyone that, not professional.

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MrsMiggins37 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:35:27

I certainly wouldn’t have you back, you sound high maintenance.

atomicnotsoblonde Fri 26-Jul-19 13:37:56

The not professional but was flouncing out. How unreliable (not to mention hard work) do you think that makes you? There is no way in this world I would EVER rehire a member of staff that did that. Not least, it shows hugely poor judgement and an inability to deal with issues. You don't be getting that job back!

Gazelda Fri 26-Jul-19 13:40:38

I'm genuinely sorry that life is so tough for you at the moment. Are you in any carers groups? It can be such a lonely role

But I can't see that there was a misunderstanding. You we're employed. Decided you we're unhappy in the job and decided to quit. That's not their fault. No misunderstanding, simply regret on your part.

If margins au your former employers business are tight, then they aren't likely to be in a position to offer you your job back, even if they wanted to.

I hope life soon starts looking up.

Crazycrazylady Fri 26-Jul-19 13:43:26

Honestly zero chance you are getting that job back.. I'd focus on looking for something else asap.
Sorry I know that's not what you needed to here.

Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:44:06

Do you think I can talk to someone else in private? They're part of a Trust, I could call the HR or whatever it's called. Just to talk, get support and understanding

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Redred2429 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:44:22

I don't think that you will be able to be re hired walking out of a job like that is not something that would look good I think it's very unlikely they will rehire you

Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:46:26

To clarify: I finished my shift, put my uniform in the office, people saw me shaking with tears and didn't say anything. I then sent a 2 sentence email saying 'I need to think if I can continue'. She replied saying she'll take me off rota and to please chat to see if she can do anything to help.

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Pochemuchka55 Fri 26-Jul-19 13:47:27

But I botched the chat, I'm just very bad at communicating how I feel. I didn't want to tell her my sob story, whom would it help?

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Abhann Fri 26-Jul-19 13:47:41

I'm sorry things are hard, too, OP, but a job, especially one in which you feel undervalued, cannot and should not be your life, and nor should you be emotionally dependent on employers for praise and encouragement.

I think you're expecting too much from this workplace -- you keep talking about how you don't tell your employers things because you're 'too proud' or it's 'not professional' but now you expect them to have understood that you didn't really mean to walk out, you were just making a statement about being undervalued? Even though it's clear that you mostly want your old job back only because you can't get another one locally?

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