I am working on a project with a team that isn't my normal team. I am leading the project but there are other people at the same level as me in the team so I am not the most senior person. We have regular meetings, conference calls and emails to all members.
One team member is challenging to deal with because she is enthusiastic but has lots of ideas which often aren't practical or sensible. I find I am spending a lot of time politely discussing the pros and cons of them before dismissing them but she comes up with so many I feel a) it derails things and we are wasting time discussing these ideas rather than focussing on what is important and b) I look like I am negative and it could seem like I am negative specifically towards her. I am known for being fair and open to input but she is turning me into someone else.
If I was her line manager I would be able to handle this but the dynamics are different. I don't want to speak to her manager because it would be blowing things out of all proportion but I have started dreading interactions with her and she is probably feeling less than positive towards me now.
Other people have commented to me that her ideas are not realistic but she is a nice person so no one will speak up about it to her face.
How would you handle this situation? I am usually good at sticking to an agenda and bringing the discussion back to the pertinent points but she is very persistent and will return to the same subject again and again even when a decision has been made and we have moved on.
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Greyspots · 09/06/2019 20:20
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