So... I'm in my early 30s and a lone parent. I am sole provider for my young DS, soon to be 5.
In my mid 20s, I earnt a decent wage of £40k+ after working my way up insurance. Unfortunately I was made redundant and no one would look at me because my CV was 'too advanced' for what they had so all said I would likely leave soon. At the time the job market wasn't great but I was never looking for a job to keep looking for something better. I have a mortgage so job stability is so important to me.
Anyway I ended up temping after getting nowhere, and then into a totally new role in sales earning 16k. The job was OK. The company was horrific. I soon fell pregnant went on maternity and then we mutually agreed to part as I was unhappy with them and they never wanted a 'new mom' back anyway.
When my son was 1 I had my interview for my current job and have been there since. He will be 5 soon.
But now I feel trapped in my job.
I love what I do in that I go above and beyond what is expected of me and always get immense feedback. I'd rather not say what I do but it's a sales kind of role however no bonus or commission attached. But I think I do this as if I did the bog standard what is expected of me I'd be gutted for not wanting more for myself. I work around his school hours, 30 a week to be able to be around to collect him from school. I suppose I've thrown myself into being a mom because I can't see a way to improve things career wise. So I can at least back and know at I have been a good mom. And by that I mean I can say I've been good at something!
I would love to work in HR or with numbers but I just can't see a way of studying, or training with everything against me.
It is just me and my little boy. No help from his Dad or contact. I have my own house mortgaged, obviously bills every month, and to make things worse was left in alot of debt by his dad. Plenty of admissions that he has taken/used the money but sadly all in my name so I sought legal advice and decided to take the hit and pay it off myself. It's killing me though and I still have 30 months to go. We struggle month in, month out, year in, year out.
I don't want a better job for money reasons, although it would be lovely. I am so scared to look back in 10 years time and think 'oh is that all I've done'. I really don't know what to do to improve things or even if I can?
Has anyone changed career direction and started over? What did you do and how do you do it?
Thank you x
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SpideyMom · 29/05/2019 22:53
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