After being made redundant in my last job (Teaching Assistant)I began as a TA in a school through a temping agency. I work with the Assistant Head and 4 children in a exclusion room in the school.
When I started he realised we went to the same gym chain but different locations. He would ask me to meet him at the gym telling me he would drive the 10 miles to my gym. He is about 20 years older than me (I’m 34) and I’m not attracted to him so I would make excuses e.g I have no babysitter. (I’m a single parent)
He kept persisting but it was a mild irritation.
The school offers a teacher training programme and I applied for it as I do like the school, the Head of Department insisted I put him down as reference and to be honest it really helped my application. He then persisted in asking me to the gym, out for dinner etc. He also asked for a bottle of wine to say thank you for the reference (which I did buy him as I felt I had to).
He began asking more personal questions such as what I look for in a man, and would continue to ask me to the gym in a more forceful way, e.g ‘what time shall we meet tonight. I have always managed to find an excuse as to why I can’t make it.
In front of the students he would tell me I am beautiful, even the students told him to stop flirting.
He began making comments such as ‘I got you onto the teacher training course and you won’t do this and that etc).
Up until a few weeks ago it was all verbal but still made me uncomfortable, but a few weeks back he called me over to his desk, as I stood by his desk he grabbed the back of my leg (above knee). It made me uncomfortable but I didn’t move.
On another occasion we took the students to the park, he asked me to go on the zip wire and said he would give me a push. I sat in it and he grabbed me round the waist and moved his hands towards my pelvis before pushing.
Then last week again we took the students to the park, I sat in a bench and he sat next to me, he then put his hand on my thigh. I didn’t move just sat there uncomfortable wanting him to just stop touching me.
I don’t know what to do, if I ask him to stop he will likely speak to the head and get rid of me, which will mean I can’t take up my teacher training place.
Again if I speak to the head myself I could be seen as more trouble than I’m worth.
How do I ask him to stop touching me without offending him? I will only be with him until July as once I begin teacher training I will be in a different department.
I wish the first time he grabbed my leg I had moved to give off the vibe I didn’t want to be touched, I feel like as I have frozen when he touches me I have given it the ok
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I feel like I’m being harassed but will loose everything if I leave or report it
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Midtown34 · 31/03/2019 22:46
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