Still not heard back, is this rude?

(21 Posts)
lovetpwonder Thu 26-Jul-18 12:26:09

I went for an interview two weeks ago.

They really seemed to like me, despite their invasive questions of if I have childcare sorted, and how many DC do I have, how old hmm

I then got a call last week on Wednesday, saying two other people would like to see me on Friday. So I went on Friday, and they practically sounded like they were handing me the job, but that they needed to write up a contraction of hours etc.

They also asked what specific hours and pay I would like, and I was told 'to be honest'

Anyway, they said they'd get back to me by Wednesday (yesterday) and I've still heard nothing sad No call, no email.

Isn't that a bit rude? Even if they did eventually decide I wasn't for them, couldn't they just let me know?

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caughtinthemiddle2 Thu 26-Jul-18 12:32:31

I cant stand companies who dont contact you to let you know either way it is just rude. I would give them until Monday and then contact them if I hadn't heard anything. Good luck!

Seniorschoolmum Thu 26-Jul-18 12:35:45

They aren’t supposed to ask about children.

Bear in mind this is the first week of the school hols. People will be off work, maybe HR is working on half staff, maybe the person who signs off the budget isn’t around. If you don’t hear by next Monday, I’d give HR a call and ask if they need anything else from you.

SpectacularAardvark Thu 26-Jul-18 12:41:01

My DH had this, they assured him they would let him know either way... and then nothing. Makes me so angry, just have the balls to call or email even and say, thanks but no thanks, it's not that hard. angry

SpectacularAardvark Thu 26-Jul-18 12:41:51

And yes, it is very rude!!

EggbertHeartsTina Thu 26-Jul-18 12:44:09

If they asked about children and childcare and DON'T offer you the role, you need to request detailed feedback as that could be clear grounds for discrimination

lovetpwonder Thu 26-Jul-18 14:46:35

I was a little emotional last night, it's a really lovely role in a small GP surgery sad Really close to home too.

I was rooting for it.

DH thinks I should call today, I'm thinking wait until Monday and then call, like a PP suggested?

If I don't get it, I will be requesting feedback because I think it's really unfair.

They even asked me in the second interview, if I did get the job, do I have a plan in place for emergency childcare? envy

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IfNot Thu 26-Jul-18 14:55:32

If they asked about children and childcare and DON'T offer you the role, you need to request detailed feedback as that could be clear grounds for discrimination


Women! It's 2018! They don't ask men about their childcare arrangements (they really don't) and they can't ask you!!
Honestly, if somebody asked me if I had kids/how many/ who was babysitting in an interview they would just get a level stare, a raised eyebrow and a long awkward silence.
It makes me SO angry when they think they can ask this -women have got to stop being seen as the default parent and we have got to stand up to this or it will never bloody happen. Grrr.
Anyway, OP, just ring them and ask.

WipsGlitter Thu 26-Jul-18 15:47:59

They absolutely should not have asked about childcare. So they're dumb as fuck to have done so.

lovetpwonder Fri 27-Jul-18 09:23:52

If they asked about children and childcare and DON'T offer you the role, you need to request detailed feedback as that could be clear grounds for discrimination

They absolutely should not have asked about childcare. So they're dumb as fuck to have done so.

Thing is, even if I do have clear grounds for discrimination, what next?

It's not like I can legally do anything. I don't have the cash for a lawyer or whatever else sad

I feel a bit helpless.

I was going to call today but I'm wondering, what do I say?

"Hello, is it possible to speak to such and such?"

"Hello, I was wondering what the situation is in regards to the role I applied for? I was advised that they'd let me know by Wednesday latest and I still haven't heard anything. Are there any updates?"

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ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 27-Jul-18 09:28:39

Don’t panic yet, NHS is sooo slow. They have been with me anyway. It’s not over until you hear that it is.

lovetpwonder Fri 27-Jul-18 09:35:56

Through I work for a busy Orthopaedic department in London (on maternity leave now), and they let me know the next day!

I think sometimes people just aren't too fussed.

I want to call but I don't really know what to say sad

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ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 27-Jul-18 09:40:08

My experience was that I was given assurance I’d be rung the next day, but it was three days later and they offered me the job.

If you really want to ring up, personally I’d ask for the person who interviewed me and ask them if they had come to a decision yet.

lovetpwonder Sun 29-Jul-18 01:59:13

I've been offered the job! grin

One of the GP's emailed Friday last thing, offering me the role.

Here's the thing,, in the original email it said "I will confirm what exact days you'll be working in 7 days, maybe 10 days".

I found it strange, not knowing my exact days before accepting, but I wasn't sure if it was the norm not to know sometimes because I have always been in full time positions.

I thought I would wait for her to give me my exact hours, etc etc, and a written or emailed contract, until resigning from my current job?

However, I just received an email saying "Hi lp. Thanks for your reply. Can you please email over the date you can start at our practice?"

So what do I do? Resign before I have anything in writing or documented format via email?

It seems a bit off, having to resign and get dates I can start without actually having a hard and fast contract.

Maybe I'm wrong blush

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Thunky Sun 29-Jul-18 02:03:38

Erm, cant accept a job until they have told you what they are offering you!! Thats mental

violetbunny Sun 29-Jul-18 02:41:41

Just reply stating that your notice period is X days/weeks once you have formally accepted their offer, however you're still waiting for a copy of your contract and confirmation of which days they will want you to be working.

Karting1967 Sun 29-Jul-18 03:34:07

There’s alarm bells ringing all over the place with this OP.

lovetpwonder Sun 29-Jul-18 09:24:16

Does this sound okay?

Good morning Y,

My notice period is 4 weeks. However, I can not state when I can start specifically as I have not been given a formal offer yet, and as such cannot formally accept until I have a contract to sign.

Many thanks,


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ElasticFirecracker Sun 29-Jul-18 09:34:16

Congratulations @lovetpwonder on being offered the job. What you have written sounds very clear and polite.

I think it sounds like they are slightly clueless about employment matters -- what they can and can't ask, importance of formal job offer etc.

Hope it all works out for you.

MinaPaws Sun 29-Jul-18 09:39:35


Maybe word it a bit more positively and say:

I am looking forward to starting work and to confirm my start date with you once I've received an outline from you of my proposed working days and hours.

Sorry10 Sun 29-Jul-18 18:17:27

I’ve just started new job and when I was offered job I verbally excepted then was emailed job offer with pay hours which I signed and sent back . Contract was sent in post . Do not hand notice in till you receive Job offer with hours and pay . Then you sign and confirm start date after you have handed notice in . Good luck

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