Hi I would appreciate some advice. This will be long so forgive me. I work with a more senior nurse to me (im a band 6 she is a 7)who is incredibly manipulative . She is an expert, shrewd smart and incredibly underhand. Over the years she has moved from person to person with her behaviour. Basically anyone who doesnt agree with her she starts to focus her special attention on them. Management know about her behaviour but have done nothing. She realised there was some focus on her but her go to protection was that she was the victim.
I have had issues with her also to the point I took time off last year we were to have mediation. I was told I HAD to do it, even though I realised nothing will change her. She got out of it ...i assume she was told she HAD to do it also but think she claimed to be a victim of overwork and at the last minute didn't have to go through mediation.
She likes to be seen as the hardest worker and started to hate me as my numbers were matching or overtaking hers. I used to offer to do patients for her as I thought she was stressed. As she had management responsibilities also.....but she NEVER took up my offer of help. This was the beginning of my insight into how she behaves.
As I said she moves from person to person. Currently it is a colleague (lets call her Fifi) who is the same band as her . Fifi has taken over the management responsibilities from her which has obviously made Fifi a target. Fifi and I know alot of her games and it is only through good communication between us that we can protect ourselves from some of her games. Recently there is more issues. Our senior manager keeps saying 'The next time we will do something' but of course nothing is actively done. I think they are scared of her as she has manipulated the situation to make it look like she didn't get any support and is stressed.
She has gone to our manager and last week said she was going about Fifi and I as we were bullying her. Without boring you with the details this is not the case. Again it is victim mode without any self reflection on her part regarding her own behaviour. Basically I need to know have we got the right to find out the accusations she has made about us and has anyone any tips on how to manage this , as it appears that anything we say or do she immediately accuses us of bullying and harassment. We have continually reported her behaviour and it has also affected others in our office. I think our manager is coming up to retirement and can't be bothered anymore. I can understand their hesitation as she is devious and is on another level when it comes to twisting things. Hence why it will only take a collective action with support from management to do something. Any tips for managing her or the situation would be appreciated. Ta.
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Crazymaisienumber9 · 28/06/2018 21:45
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