Should I feel bad? Will they understand?

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jcdisoaj Mon 18-Jun-18 21:39:06

I've been in a new job a couple of months and I quickly realised it wasn't for me and wasn't quite what I imagined. To their credit, they have done a lot to try and help me, in fact it's been suffocating. Performance reviews twice a week, feedback on a weekly basis from colleagues etc, and micromanagement beyond belief.

I'm an independent worker and can't take it. I saw a job ad for something much more suited to be skill set and applied. It's also £2k more. Within a day they offered me an interview.

I know I may not get the job, but if I do I think I'll feel quite guilty and embarrassed to leave so soon! But on the other hand, it's £2k more.....

So the point of this post is should I feel guilty if I am offered this job and hand my notice in so soon? Will I have wasted their time training me? Or will they understand if I say this new job pays more and I'm following the money?

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nowifi Mon 18-Jun-18 21:48:44

I wouldn't feel bad at all, you have to do what is right for you!

Di11y Mon 18-Jun-18 21:53:27

If it's a better fit then they'll probably be relieved of they're struggling to get you up to speed

Imnotaslimjim Mon 18-Jun-18 21:55:29

Tbh it sounds like it will be a relief on both sides. Go for it

daisychain01 Tue 19-Jun-18 05:01:08

To their credit, they have done a lot to try and help me, in fact it's been suffocating. Performance reviews twice a week, feedback on a weekly basis from colleagues etc, and micromanagement beyond belief

Don't be under any illusion you have to credit them for anything if they are breathing down your neck to this extent. There's one thing supporting a new employee, a whole other ballgame showing you such little faith in your skills they have to do performance reviews (twice a week?!)

flowery Tue 19-Jun-18 09:07:03

They will be fine about it. It sounds as though they are feeling you need a lot of support and performance management, which is very draining on them as well as not particularly pleasant for you.

Telling them you are 'following the money' doesn't give a very good impression of you, so I'd probably stick to feeling as though the job isn't a good fit for you.

Doyoumind Tue 19-Jun-18 09:12:03

I think you need to get out even if you don't get this job because frequent performance reviews and micro management don't sound very positive to me. You will end up losing your confidence.

MrsEricBana Tue 19-Jun-18 09:14:49

I don't think say more money, just say it's a better fit and thank you so much for trying to help you.

TisNowt Tue 19-Jun-18 11:11:08

Say. I think it's perfectly ok, thank them for their support and move on.

TisNowt Tue 19-Jun-18 11:11:20

Ohh sorry for typo

Beebee02 Tue 19-Jun-18 13:28:45

I’m also having this problem, I’ve been with the same company for 2 1/2 years. I recently have been given a promotion working in another area of the business (4 months) I’ve been sticking it out but it’s just not for me. I’m anxious coming in to work I can’t switch off when I’m home and I worry on my days off. I feel guilty for feeling like this. I have been looking at other jobs but I’m just scared to apply and worry.

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