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t can/should I do?
Hoping someone might have been in a similar situation or offer advice.
I've just returned to work after a year of maternity leave, in April 2016 I requested to be promoted based off a lot of additional responsibilities I'd been given and most importantly work on three of our big strategic accounts which meant a lot of money for the company. This was agreed by my boss at the time who wrote in my online development portal that he supported this and would work with my new line manager for a development plan to be put in place and for it to go through.
...In September 2016 I told the company I was pregnant. In the next reward cycle, December 2016 I was told that despite my old line manager, new line manager and UK HR all agreeing the promotion the US office had pushed back saying they wanted to see more project based work. There is no reporting line to the US and I had done this type of work previously...however I dutifully worked with my new line manager on a project, that was a lot of work and presented this 8.5 months pregnant to the UK and US teams. In April 17 I went off on maternity leave. THREE weeks later my colleague, same level, worked on similar less complex project got promoted to the position. The job was not advertised externally or internally. I raised this with my new line manager who reassured me that when I return from Maternity Leave that an appropriate plan would be put in place in order for me to also achieve this. I also have this in writing from him as well, again in my online development portal.
I returned to work 2 weeks ago, last week I had my 'Return to Work' meeting, he took no notes, I was asked to sign no form etc, usually this sort of thing I thought was meant to be documented. To be honest I might as well have not bothered as all the topics we'd already covered during calls prior. At the end of the meeting he asked me if I had any questions and I asked again about my wish to work towards this title and if he could work with me to put a plan in writing together. He got very defensive and said "I am not willing to put anything in writing, you need to speak to HR about that'. He then went onto say "You know, sometimes it's better not to put your head about the parapet, and stay under the radar" and my personal favourite...."If I did give you this I could make your life really difficult with everything you have going on, for example I could ask you to do this report and analysis and you'd have to do it because that's your job now" to which I said that I'd been doing that type of work for four years already....the meeting ended abruptly, I was polite throughout. He had got annoyed with me earlier when I questioned one of the FY19 goals and I wonder if it was as a result of this. Despite the fact that I had backed down, all I was asking was clearer definition of what was expected of us, it's a lot of analytical work that he doesn't know how to do and I don't think he realises how much is involved it's also never been our responsibility to do this type of work previously. I had said at the end of course I'm very willing to do it. I've been working in that department at the company for 12 years, he's only just started. My colleague told me that whilst I was away he's had several argument with her and the other lady in my team and comes across as a teacher in how he talks to you, during a call last week he'd aggressively shouted at her several times.
Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do? I have a meeting with HR on Monday morning. but the reputation at my company is if you do speak to HR, they will just ask if you want to raise a grievance and then tell you if you do it'll create bad feeling and you can kiss your career goodbye as you'll be seen as a trouble maker, hence why they are allowed to get away with it. They have been sued in the past for discrimination several times, my role is not senior enough to justify me doing that.
All I want is to find out why my project work wasn't counted towards the promotion and that my colleagues was, why the job wasn't advertised and for a dev plan to be put in place in writing that they'll stick to this time. I'm not even sure it's worth bringing up the comments that were said as my boss will just deny saying it, although I do feel it does need to be recorded as otherwise he'll just get away with saying it and carry on treating us like we are his badly behaved students!
Does anyone have any thoughts/advice?
I should add my company is predominantly male.
will PM you....im not a lawyer though
OP already received thorough responses on another forum, but failed to come back to acknowledge them.
oh right thanks for letting me know