I’m a part time chef, I have 1 daughter she just turned two in April 2018, me and my partner were ready to start trying for another baby so we did we got our positive test 7th August 2017 and we were over the moon ! (As to be expected) we went on holiday our first and last holiday as a family of three soon to be four! lovely time we had! Then 7th August I had a miscarriage at home, I never went to a doctor. Me and my partner kept it to ourselves and pretended like everything was normal I went to work the following Sunday I didn’t tell a soul I was so ashamed. Now on 21st of December a day before my birthday I did another pregnancy test just because me and my partner hadn’t been “safe” and I was due to go out and celebrate my birthday and my test was positive! My birthday that year was definitely a day early !! I got two scans I even put a deposit on a bigger house, the day of the move, the day of my scan. Friday 23rd of February 2018 I had a scan my heart broke there was no heartbeat. I opted for a D&C the nurse sent me home and said I would be called to book an appointment for surgery. So I’m back to why I started this thread, I went to work and told the duty manager my situation I didn’t want to cry but I did, I cried and held on to my tummy knowing “this is my baby and I will not feel ashamed” my duty managers words were “you need to finish your shift then you will have tomorrow off”. Now I look back and I was in a real state of shock everything was becoming real the more people that were aware. I work on my own on a Sunday from 8am to 4pm a chef running a kitchen with no other assistance or any other chefs I didn’t get a break it was a real busy day making Sunday lunches on my own. It’s now Sunday 20th May and I’m really looking back at this horrible situation I was in, wondering if anyone else has had an experience in a work place like this ? It was so obvious I was not fit for work I was an emotional wreck, very unstable I think i actually cut and burnt myself multiple times that day and made so many mistakes! I’d have just appreciated some help at work, I presume the duty manager didn’t want to call in the head chef on a Sunday but I guess I’ll never know.....
sadly miscarriage is a very common thing how did your work place support or handle your situation?
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Missed miscarriage My workplace made me feel worthless
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Babymummyrose · 20/05/2018 14:31
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