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Hazza000 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:32:56

I started a new job two years ago. It had new challenges and was way out of my comfort zone but I have learned loads and grown professionally. My problem is the ppl. I quickly came to realise it was a toxic environment. It is a tiny team where ppl very cleverly but deliberately isolate you. They do that by telling you to ‘trust no one’ and no one socialises with anyone. They definitely struggle to welcome new faces and with most of them having been established in their roles for years are bitchy sneaky and downright nasty. After a year I couldn’t stand it so dropped my hours to part time just to avoid this team. One year on things have not changed and I feel that everytime I go to work a little bit more of my spirit dies. I have previously enjoyed good work relationships with nights out and good team spirit. I can see no change on the horizon and wonder if I should leave. I’m not sure I can face the upheaval but by the same token I am getting lonely and depressed. I would value anyone’s suggestions.

retirednow Thu 07-Dec-17 21:08:31

Use the different experiences and knowledge you have gained to your own advantage and get yourself another job with a happy atmosphere where you will make friends and you can put this all-too-common toxic culture behind you. It never gets better until all the nasty people leave but that can take forever, especially if the boss is allowing it to happen. Who wants to spend precious time with people who make you feel upset or doubt your abilities, let them get on with it and move on. You know you are worth more.

NotMyMonkees Thu 07-Dec-17 21:11:25

Leave. I was in a similar team and actually over time the people did leave, but new ones started and the atmosphere stayed the same, something about the place kept it going. You spend too much time at work to spend it feeling miserable! I left and never regretted it.

Hedgehogparty Thu 07-Dec-17 22:48:44

If you can, just get out. The situation is clearly affecting your mental health and no job is worth that.

user1andonly Thu 07-Dec-17 23:44:09

I'm amazed you've lasted two years. I was in a similar situation and started applying elsewhere after about three weeks!

Some places are just toxic and not worth risking your confidence and mental health for.

You've been there plenty long enough to apply for other jobs and just say you are looking for a new challenge. I found it my unpleasant team easier to cope with when I knew it wouldn't be indefinite - although obviously it can take a while to find something else.

Do it and don't look back!

SJM72 Fri 08-Dec-17 14:42:30

I think you need to leave. There's nothing worse than when your job destroys your soul.

My job is getting worse by the day and it's having an impact on my life outside of work. Once you get to that stage there's only one option.

Hazza000 Sun 10-Dec-17 14:09:22

Thanks guys you probably all said what I needed to hear.

retirednow Sun 10-Dec-17 18:07:49

Sometimes you just need to hear the obvious from someone else. Start the New Year with a new job, you won't regret it and will probably wonder why you took so long to get out of there!

whirlygirly Sun 10-Dec-17 22:24:04

Yes, go. Sounds like you've learned a lot - take your new skills somewhere where you can work with decent people.
I left a toxic place and the relief was indescribable.

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