Warning: it's a long story.
I'm a new TA at a secondary school (I have worked there before as a supply teacher). It was the first day of term for all year 7-13s, because it was the first day back the teacher provided some ice breaker activities for the kids to get to know their peers within their form class, the activity required a pen.
All TAs are required to carry stationery in case a kids need one. I saw a couple of kids in the corner who looked a little anxious so I assumed they did not have a pen, so I kindly offered pens to anyone who needed one. The teacher turned and looked at me, she looked at me as if I had defecated on her mother's head and she said "it's the first day back, they should have stationery on them at all times. If I were you I would put that back!". It was so embarrassing, the classroom went quiet and kids stared at me. Kids are like sharks, they can smell weakness, the water was filled with my blood.
I kept quiet for the remainder of the class, when the kids went off for their break I asked the teacher if I could speak to her privately. I was calm, collective and most of all professional. I told her I did not appreciate the way she spoke to me because it was embarrassing, and that I think it's ok to be lenient on the first day because it's important that the children have a pleasant first day experience. She denied all allegations and she had another go at me because it's school policy to carry stationery at all times.
I was coming down with a cold and I had a migraine, I suffered from severe depression in the past so I am a little more sensitive than others. I went into the staff locker room during break and I broke down in tears. My TA colleagues saw me cry and told me to head home as I was feeling sick and I didn't have the energy to cope emotionally. I spoke to my boss but I did not tell her about the pen incident, she sent me home and wished me a swift recovery.
I work through an agency, I got a call from my recruitment agent later on that day because my boss called her and told her about the "altercation" at work. She went absolutely mental and said that it was extremely unprofessional of me to speak to the teacher directly and that I should have kept my mouth shut and gone directly to her or my boss or both.
Am I in the wrong? what would you have done?
(The other TAs told me that this particular teacher is hard to work with because she's a rude control freak)
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I'm a TA and the teacher embarrassed on my first day in the classroom
youdontknowmyname · 09/09/2017 14:00
You done nothing wrong, you tried to help students who granted didn't have their pens but they still would of got a pen, she called you out, she should of done it at the exact moment you told her you didn't appreciate that. She should of told you afterwards or even just said it in passing when you two only can hear. Going home with a migraine is understandable and some teachers take a couple of days off due to migraines. You have done nothing wrong. Also, your recruitment boss was out of order too, how else are you able to communicate with your colleagues and have a successful, smooth day?
I wish you a speedy recovery
OP, as a former teacher, you should know that you never smile until Christmas, and you do need to start as you mean to go on.
She does sound horrid in the way she spoke to you, she shouldn't have done this in front of the children.
It's done now so when you go back I would try to make it a fresh start. Maybe she was also having a shit day? Just be open, say you're sorry you didn't have a great start and want to start over and have a positive working relationship. Maybe you can try to spend ten minutes drawing up guidelines/boundaries with each other?
I hope it works for you and that you feel better soon
Oh dear what an unfortunate first day 
I hope you can put all this behind you and make a new start next week.
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